Is there anything he doesn't want?
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| Thu, 03-22-2007 - 11:52am |
It seems STBX wants everything except me and the kids. After a decade of marriage and two young children, he announces he is leaving for someone else (six months after moving us all half way across the country). At first, he says it is fine for me to take the kids back home and live there. So I took a few days worth of clothes for us and planned to have movers get everything else because we had agreed on what each of us would take from the house - only a verbal agreement.
Now all of a sudden, he wants them back in that state (I filed here, he filed there- where there are stricter limits on child support). However, he also wants exclusive rights to the house there including all the contents (is the OW going to wear my clothes and what about the kids clothes and toys?) and wants the judge to require the kids to live nearby. But he doesn't want custody and can't take the kids overnight because that state won't permit it if OW is living there.
So I have to go there for a hearing and hopefully the judge will agree to my motion to transfer the case back to the state I've lived in (where the judge already said she believes it belongs) and the children have lived in all our lives except for the past few months.
How do people suddenly change like this?!?!? He went from loving husband and father to this kind of behavior overnight! He is treating me like I'm the one who cheated and left! Some days I just get so angry!!!

are you sure you can really get it transferred to your new state? Normally you have to live in the new state at least 6 months to gain jurisdiction.
BM left DH and moved 1000 miles away and tried to file there. It was thrown out quicker than quick.