Is there anyway to

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Registered: 09-08-2005
Is there anyway to
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Fri, 11-25-2005 - 10:00am

get your spouse to leave if they don't want to. I really want out of my M. My H has become a drunk and we really have nothing in common. We have 3 young children and I want them and the house. I won't need child support once our boys start school next year but how in the world do I get him to leave. I have mentioned to him several times that I don't want to stay M but he doesn't believe me. I think he thinks I am just mad and will get over it.

I actually have a goal to have him gone by the fall so that I can get on with my life with the kids. I just don't know if there is any way to do it. I won't leave my house and kids and I know he can't take care of either on his own (although he wouldn't admit it.)

any advice would be helpful

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Fri, 11-25-2005 - 10:13am

Hello and welcome!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-25-2005 - 12:42pm

whatwasithinking05...

Pianoguy agrees with Melanie (the previous poster) 100%! If abuse or physical harm is a threat to you or your children, you can probably remove your husband from the house! Or at least get a restraining order of some sort?

Question is....is the house you're living in---HIS, YOURS, or BOTH? There might be an issue here to check into? Possibly with your lawyer or legal advisor?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 11-25-2005 - 2:20pm

You've gotten great advice so far.... do check with an attorney to see exactly what you can do in your state, make a plan, and start taking steps toward your goal.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 11-25-2005 - 9:05pm
I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy, but this is what my ex did. He went down and filed for divorce and had me removed from the house and he took custody of our children. Maybe this is just a Kansas thing I don't know. He did not have to prove me unfit, the courts just did it. Good Luck! Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sun, 11-27-2005 - 11:10am

My spouse wouldn't leave either. He filed and was 100% certain that he didn't want the house, but still he wouldn't move out. I'm not sure exactly what he thought was going to happen.

When we went for our first "status" meeting with the judge the judge basically said he had to move out in order to put together a plan of care for the kids and to start separating our lives. He said that we couldn't get divorced and then decide on what our plan is going to be and who is going to live where.

Had he said he wanted the house I would have moved into an apartment until I could have gotten a place put on the land that he was to get in the settlement, but he wanted the land and not the house.

The months he stayed in the house during the filing period were torture too. I couldn't stand to look at him sitting around on the couch. I couldn't use the computer or phone so I had to get a lap top to keep in my room. It was a tense time.