There is hope
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| Mon, 04-09-2007 - 11:27am |
Hey guys,
Idk if any of you remember me. I used to CL this board with cl-wild..... it was over a year ago...
Anyway, I wanted you all to know that there is hope. I know you all feel anger for different things towards your ex and its ok to feel that way. Heck, I was there, I remember. I remember hating him. I remember thinking my life was over because he left me. I remember being so worried about my kids. ( I have 3, ages 8, 3 with my ex husband and age 2 with my current boyfriend ) Its hard... the hardest thing you will ever go through.
I want you guys to know, as of today, I have managed to put things behind me and be best friends with my ex husband. Even after all the BS. Even after all the anger. Here we are, 3 years later, best of friends.
A little backround....
He left me for a younger, thinner, baby-less woman. He left me pregnant, 6 months into our marriage after we had been together for 7 years. I was shocked. I had no money, no job and was forced to accept what was happening.
I spent a lot of time hating life. I spend a lot of time being so depressed and angry at what was happening that I sunk LOW into a deep depression that basically started to run my life. I fought HARD to get him back. I wanted him. That's all I thought about.
It was the moment that they told me they were "in love" that I decided to stop.
It was a LONG road. I started losing weight, taking care of me and my kids ON MY OWN without complaining about how HE did this to me, I started thinking positivly about EVERYTHING. I started thinking about how I can take care of things myself. I filed for divorce. I met someone new. ( even if I wasn't "looking" it was nice to get some adult interraction...) I got in touch with old friends. Made my own life.
It has to start somewhere.... and if I can do it. You can too. If I can forgive enough to get along better with my ex husband than I do my best friend.... then thats where it will be. My kids are happier knowing that mom and dad can be happy in each others company... believe me....
Oh and for his girlfriend.... she kicked him out. Boom, just like that. 3 years after they started dating. He had nothing, no job, no furniture, no car.... it was ROUGH for him. He is now better than the man I married who was then my best friend. Now I can go out for a drink with him or go to our son's school conferences. Its awesome. And, I admit, having her out if his life for the last 8 months or so makes it better ;) His new girlfriend I LOVE....
So thats my story. There is hope everyone... it starts with YOU.
Hugs to all.
Angelena

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~