Things are a mess

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Registered: 10-22-2007
Things are a mess
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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 5:15am

Hi, everyone

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Registered: 10-10-2006
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 6:49am

I'm sorry to hear what you are going through! I can relate to the pain and emptiness you feel right now. *HUGS*


I know this is a lot harder than it sounds but you're going to have to tell yourself the next few weeks are going to be hard, it will be tough, but it is going to get better and you will get through this. Tell yourself you're strong enough to make it through this. Your thoughts are related to your feelings and subsquently your actions.


The next few weeks, I would use any resources you can to figure out how you will be deal with your finances and paying your bills once the divorce is final. Talk to your family, your friends, etc. I am sure there is a solution so you don't totally have to give up your house.


You owe it to yourself to be really kind with yourself in the next couple of weeks. Let yourself grieve, cry, whatever.


Keep us posted.

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Registered: 10-22-2007
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 3:41pm

forgivenfaith114:


Thanks so much for the support!

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 5:25pm
take it easy and take it one step at a time. Only deal with the things you have to at the moment. You need to take it easy. take the dogs for a walk if you have to. Just relax know that we are all here for you anytime. Your strong and you can do this. Breathe and take a minute every day every hour for you. It helps. One step at a time. It does get better.
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Registered: 05-12-2007
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 7:00pm
The others have said a lot of what I wanted to say when I read your post, so I'll just let you know that I'm thinking of you and sending lots of hugs and prayers of peace to you...

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Registered: 10-10-2006
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 7:57am

Concerning your gossip mill at work, let it roll off your back and keep on moving forward.


It's horrible that people have to gossip about others but I know you can just be the better person and not let it bother you. When you come to work, focus on whatever tasks you need to finish, not this.


There are people at my work that know about my divorce and I didn't even tell them. I just smile and move on. It isn't worth it to get caught up with that mess.

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Registered: 08-20-2007
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 9:59pm
I have no advice, as I am experiencing a similar situation - only hugs and it will get better.
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Registered: 08-12-2007
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 11:41pm

Hi, first let me say I am so sorry that you're going through this mess.