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Things are moving fast!
| Thu, 04-24-2008 - 10:07pm |
I not even sure how things have fallen apart so quickly. My husband and I have been married for only 3 1/2 years but have been together for 8 and we have a two month old daughter. Up until three months ago everything was great! Then he lost his job (I was nine months pregnant) and hasn't found a new job yet! I was on maternity leave receiveing 50% of my pay and things started to fall apart. He would spend most of his day playing on the internet and I would have to beg and fight with him to get him to apply for jobs. I started to feel like he wasn't respecting me because he was willing to let everything I had been working hard for go, so I told him that he needed to get a job or he would have to leave because he wasnt even trying to support his family. We are a two income household and going to one income (mine) was not even enough to keep up with the cars and house let alone childcare and formula for a newborn. I never thought that he would choose to continue to sit around and let our lives fall apart. He started to try to find a job and even had a few interviews. So I thought maybe he was going to start to make some money and help to keep us from bankruptcy.
I was wrong. He decided Monday that he was "done" with our marriage and that he was moving out. He left that night and has left me broke with our daughter. In just the past few days we have discussed everything for the divorce including child custody, support, and even our struggling finances. He is supposed to pay support for the baby and half of our debt and wants no interest in the house, leaving me with a payment I can barely afford, However, He is still not working and has no money to pay anything!!! So I am struggling to keep the lights on and the mortgage paid. He even declined scheduled visitation with the baby. He just wants to see her sometimes but he doesn't need to have every other weekend! This was a planned child! We both wanted her and he went to every appointment and was so happy to be having Daddy's little Girl. He even named her!! I am so hurt that the man I love and thought I would be with forever is just turning his back on us!
I am trying to be tough and I have somehow tried to convince myself that I am okay that he is gone because he obviously isn't the man I thought he was. But I am so in love with him and it hurts. I think he is depressed and feeling like he wasnt ready to be a father and he is scared. Things are moving so fast and I am afraid he will wake up one day and realize what he has done and regret it and it will be too late. I could never take him back after what he is doing to our daughter but I know this man he has become is not the man he used to be and I can't see how he could be happy with himself for this.
I was wrong. He decided Monday that he was "done" with our marriage and that he was moving out. He left that night and has left me broke with our daughter. In just the past few days we have discussed everything for the divorce including child custody, support, and even our struggling finances. He is supposed to pay support for the baby and half of our debt and wants no interest in the house, leaving me with a payment I can barely afford, However, He is still not working and has no money to pay anything!!! So I am struggling to keep the lights on and the mortgage paid. He even declined scheduled visitation with the baby. He just wants to see her sometimes but he doesn't need to have every other weekend! This was a planned child! We both wanted her and he went to every appointment and was so happy to be having Daddy's little Girl. He even named her!! I am so hurt that the man I love and thought I would be with forever is just turning his back on us!
I am trying to be tough and I have somehow tried to convince myself that I am okay that he is gone because he obviously isn't the man I thought he was. But I am so in love with him and it hurts. I think he is depressed and feeling like he wasnt ready to be a father and he is scared. Things are moving so fast and I am afraid he will wake up one day and realize what he has done and regret it and it will be too late. I could never take him back after what he is doing to our daughter but I know this man he has become is not the man he used to be and I can't see how he could be happy with himself for this.
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| Fri, 04-25-2008 - 3:00pm |
Before I even got to your last paragraph, I thought that maybe he was depressed.
