Things are moving soooo slowly...

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2006
Things are moving soooo slowly...
2
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 1:15pm

I posted before, but the brief background is that I am a SAHM and STBX is technically leaving me but I have, in truth, been planning my "escape" for months. I don't have a job but I'm looking. My stresses are legal and financial, but not the loss of him. I feel more hope than I have in a long time.

STBX is still living here. He is moving out on 11/1 (or, if I get a job, maybe 10/1). Time is moving so slowly. I HATE to be here when he isn't. Also, it has been over 2 weeks since I saw an attorney -- probably 2 weeks since she received my retainer check. I still don't have the separation agreement that I want/need to present STBX with. I am riddled with anxiety about how he's going to react and whether or not he will sign. This will give me custody if he signs it, and guarantees me the money that he has promised (the 403(b) and soem of our savings). I bought a used couch since he wants to take the one we have. It was $50 and it is SO MUCH NICER than the one we had (I truly thought I was being generous, but I lucked out finding this one). I HATE to see him sitting on MY new couch. I HATE cooking him dinner. I can't stand to see his things in my closet, sleep next to him, or even smell him. Time is just moving so slowly. I want to get on with my life.

I guess I just needed to vent.

Thanks for listening!

Kate

Photobucket - Video and Image Hosting
Photobucket - Video and Image Hosting
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2005
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 9:20pm

Hi, just wanted to say hang in there. I completely understand just wanting to be able to move on. My divorce is also moving slowly, and I just want it to be over with.

Best of luck to you getting a job. I hope you find one very soon so that you can really start moving on with your life. October 1st (or even November 1st) will be here before you know it.

Laura

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 12:58am
Hi Kate... I remember those days, and looking back, staying together while we were divorcing was the smartest thing that we did.... but it wasn't easy.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~