think that this will have an impact?

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Registered: 02-28-2007
think that this will have an impact?
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Sat, 07-07-2007 - 10:46pm

My STBX has the kids for summer visitation. My daughter called me about a week and a half ago to tell me that her father was using an on-line dating service. That is fine, I couldn't care less what he does. Curious about what he had to say about himself I went to the site and looked him up.

Although he lies like a cheap rug in his profile which I think is funny what has me upset is that the picture he has as the front door to his profile is of him and our kids. Our daughter in the picture has her school sweatshirt on and you can see the name of our town. The thing is that we don't live in the same town. Should I tell the court? I know it sounds petty but I really don't like having my children's pictures on the internet and certainly not on a singles site. The problem is that it seems as though the judge in the case as well as my attorney have sided with the STBX on every issue in this divorce. Is it worth pushing, will anything result from it? Or am I just fooling my self that anyone cares about the welfare of my kids.

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Registered: 07-01-2007
Sun, 07-08-2007 - 8:43pm
Hmm... I have to admit, that would seriously bother me as well. Why don't you get your attorney's input on this and take it from there. Do you think if you mentioned it to your ex that he would be cooperative? Let me/us know what happens!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 5:08pm

I would just mention that "a friend" saw the pic on the site and that you think it might be a better idea to photoshop out the school name on your daughter's shirt for the pic.


He probably hasn't even thought about it... and I'd give him the opportunity to be aware... and fix it.... before you take legal action, but MOST DEFINITELY there are people out there lurking in all places, and a child predator can easily find out *too much* info about a parent, then locate the child and easily make it seem as if they are a friend of the parent just because they know the personal info from the rest of his profile... see where I'm headed with this?


Whatever you do, don't implicate your daughter AT ALL!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 07-11-2007
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 1:34pm
Yikes, you have EVERY reason to be concerned (if not upset) about this. I think most dating sites have the option to report stuff to them (I'd think something like this would be reasonable)...you could contact the dating site, explain what you did in your post and have them either pull the picture, or at least blur out your daughters shirt (or their faces)...if you still have a reasonable enough releationship with your X, maybe you can ask that he crop them out of the photo? (Just a thought.) Good luck to you.