Thinking about moving

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Thinking about moving
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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 2:03pm

I went to my best friend's sister's wedding this weekend. It was near the town where I grew up (Wellfleet), so I stayed with my mom in the house I grew up in. At the wedding, I ran into all sorts of people I hadn't seen since high school days, and it was a lot of fun. I felt very little stress while I was at mom's this weekend. When I told several people that STBX & I were getting divorced ( STBX also lived in the town I grew up in), they asked if I was going to move back "home" to Wellfleet. To be honest, the thought had NEVER crossed my mind, although about 10 years ago, I wanted to move back to Wellfleet, and STBX convinced me that it was better to stay where we had moved after getting married (about 60 miles west of Wellfleet).

Now that I'm back at my "marriage house", I'm thinking about moving back to Wellfleet. I miss having all my old friends around-- I never really made any lasting friendships in the town where I live now, except for 1 or 2 people here in town. It would also be nice to be around my family-- they all live on the Cape, within 12 miles of each other. I have NO family here.

I know it's not something to be done on a whim-- real estate is expensive on the Cape (although my uncle has a big house with no family living there... my ggg-grandfather built it, and someday it will be mine and my brother's, and my brother doesn't want it...), and we've established our lives off-Cape. I'm not sure what to do. Moving back to the Cape would be a HUGE decision. I'm sure older DS would want to live here; younger DS has his friends, but he LOVES Cape Cod and all his grandparents live in Wellfleet.


Any advice?

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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 2:09pm

How old are your children?

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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 2:28pm
My sons are 18 and 9. Right now, this move is just an idea, in it's earliest stages of infancy. I'm kind of batting around some ideas. I'll ask the kids what they would want to do. I don't want the kids living with STBX-- he's an alcoholic, who can be emotionally abusive. I am not going to discuss this with him yet, as he'll probably use it against me.
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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 2:43pm

I would be careful mentioning it to the children in that case.

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