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| Tue, 11-11-2008 - 7:10pm |
This is a question for those of you who left your spouses....for me, I left after 10 years of marriage, long story short, we basically grew apart. We knew things werent going in a good direction for years, but he was always blinded to the problems,

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I can tell you!
I talked until I was BLUE in the face about how we were growing apart.... how we needed to work TOGETHER to try to get back on track... or on a new track... something... anything.
He didn't want to even begin to try to acknowledge that anything needed changing until it was a reality for him that I was leaving.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Oh, he was a pathetic little thing until around Christmas (we divorced over the summer, and after that he begged, cried, pleaded for us to date and try to get back together... SWORE I was the only woman he'd ever love, that he'd never remarry, blah, blah, blah).
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
The guilt passes..... Like you and Karen, I worked at the marriage... counseling... individual therapy..... finally, I saw that it was going nowhere because his attitude was, "You go work on yourself and when you love me again, I'll work with you."
But within days of me pulling the plug on the marriage, he professed undying love and devotion... things would be different.... he loved me.... blah blah blah.....
I felt bad.... we have 2 daughters and I knew they'd hurt from this, but I knew that my kids living with unhappy Mom would be worse.
My guilt decreased once he started dating anything in a skirt(within weeks of me moving out) and was gone when he married less then 7 months after our divorce was final.
He's on wife #3 now...... I'm glad I'm not married to him anymore.
~calla~ mom to rosie and gracie
Hi Dreaming
I can relate.
My ex H used to call, plead, beg, ask for dates - insist that we could make it work.
I too got very tired of it all but at the same time, it wasn't fun seeing someone in so much pain.
Eventually, I sent him a heartfelt e-mail, clearly outlining all the reasons why the marriage had to end.
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