Thought I Was Clear
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| Mon, 07-11-2005 - 6:13pm |
Well I thought I was okay, been trying to move on but when I see him or talk to him I suffer a setback. When does it all end. My ex gets my son for a whole week the end of July. I think he and his gf are taking a vacation somewhere, still don't know how Im gonna handle that.
It still hurts a little when he says "we for they" or she says "we for them", not that I give a crap about him, but just the fact that "they" are out doing things w/my son. They took him to the zoo on Sunday and then she emails me this morning to say "let me know if we can be of some help to you where my sonis concerned". Her emails and texts are starting to grate on my nerves and sometimes I wonder if shes trying to make me jealous or something. I just wish she'd stop. Funny, first I wanted to hear from her, now I wish both her and my ex would leave me alone. All of a sudden he wants to be father of the yr and is concerned for my son, I think he's trying to look good in front of her and vice versa.
What is my problem? I go out and do things, I'm not sitting at home moping or crying, just trying to keep busy, but still I dont understand, how come he gets to have a family w/someone else and Im still here, its not fair. I went out on a date Friday and we kissed the end of the night, and Im thinking to myself, gosh what am I doing here. Of everything all I ever wanted was a family. How do we get over our exes, I know I cannot still love him for the cruel way he has treated me, but at the same time it hurts to see him or hear him talk about his gf. I want to not even have to think about them. I want to start thinking about me. How do I get past this hump?

Hi there,
I agree. You need time and distance. You want to try to know as little as possible about Ex. I con totally sympathize with the loss of "The Family Unit" but keep reminding yourself that you never wanted a family with a cruel, selfish worm so good riddance.
Time. It heals all wounds. And wounds all Heels. LOL!
Oh, in addition to going out and having fun, you might also spend part of son's week away doing something special for him. Organizing his sports gear in the garage, re-decorating his room, planning a party, or maybe just sorting out last Fall's clothes and putting the summer stuff up closer. Whatever you enjoy doing. It helps you feel he is still close.
Well, she sounds very high schoolish to me...just from your basic post it sounds like you are responding just the way she wants you to, (him too!) I agree. change your email address or block her. whatever. Wont they eventually run out of energy trying to show each other how perfect they are?
I find myself wanting STBX to find another girlfriend so he can learn that she is human also and maybe it IS him after all.
Susie
I feel like we are about in the same spot right now. My daughter is with her dad for the week. He has promised not to have OW around, but I don't trust him as far as I can throw him. Sometimes I can picture them all going somewhere together and it makes me ill. STBX never seemed to want to do family things, but it seems he is much more interested in taking dd out to do things now. Go figure.
I am trying to stay busy as well. It is hard to find things to do by myself and I feel lonely while I am out doing them. I guess it would be worse if I was sitting at home by myself. I think the idea to do something for the kids is a great idea. I am going to rearrange dd's room. It is a mess and really needs some help. Maybe I should do the same to my room. lol
I seem to have a harder time with things when I think about stbx with OW. I try not to but sometimes the mind just takes over for me. I know that it will be better someday. I know that I am a strong, beautiful woman and in the end karma will bite them both in the butt.
hugs, neverdull