The three of us at my dd soccer game

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Registered: 08-13-2002
The three of us at my dd soccer game
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Wed, 05-25-2005 - 9:11pm

Hi everyone,
i don't know how to handle this, but for anyone who knows my story, i was married for 12 years, i left last November, H found a gf, and she moved in in January. It's been so hard for me, i have told him i want to come home, that i love him, and that i made a big mistake, i want our family back together...He says he can't do anything, he said his feelings are not the same, that he doesn't know if he loves me enough to take me back, and it looks as he wants to stay with her.

I had to go see my daughter play soccer, i told him i would be there and i would not cause a scene, and i didn't. She was there too, i stayed away, by myself, while he sat beside her the whole game. I tried so hard not too make eye contact, or look at them, and i didn't. At the end of the game me and my husband approach the coaches, to get more info about the next game, and she had the guts to walk over and stand beside him...It hurt so much to see him, beside her...I cryed all the way home, it was unbearable pain, like someone had kicked in the stomack, i felt so alone, specially when he drove away with her and my children, like i had lost everythink i love, or someone died....i just needed to talk to someone, so thank you for listening.

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 10:36pm
Please forgive - I am not familiar with your story. Why did you leave?
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Registered: 08-13-2002
Thu, 05-26-2005 - 9:15am
The reason i left, i'm sure for many it's hard to understand...but i'll try to explain: I was married for 12 years and for at least 8 of those years, i waited for him to come home at night, he would neglet me, show no affection, always leave me alone with my children. I cryed almost every night and got very depressed. Than after that i started to resent him, decided to stop suffering and became independent, i decided that i had my own life to live. He made my feeling for him to become colder every year and after that i said enough of this and i decided to leave, he tried to chance but for me it was too late, i was determined and nothing he would say or do was good enough. So i left, months later i realized how much i loved him, i could never get into a relationship with anyone else, because i felt i was cheating my heart and my feelings for him....In the mean time he meets someone else, she moves in and now, i don't know what to do to get him back, and have my family back together...