Through gritted teeth

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Registered: 03-03-2006
Through gritted teeth
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Fri, 08-11-2006 - 9:07pm

spoke with XH. Normally when he picks up our DD he and I don't see each other because he picks her up from my parents home (because I am working at my 2nd job) and my sister picks her up from him when it is my turn to get DD back. So we never have to speak UNLESS issues come to light.

I have tried in the past when issues come up that I call him and talk to him but then he gets all big and bad and I know he really isn't listening he is just putting on a show.

After my "DD TOLD ME WHAT XH AND GF SAID" post. (brief summary talking ill of me because I called the police on him he had active warrant and GF said I was a bad mom and DD told me that GF took her arm and put DD to the floor and put her feet to her head and made her cry and then told my DD to quit being a cry baby."

Soooooooooooo..........XH pulls in like he is driving a cadillac (hand me down van from his GF parent's nice....) I walk out and he sits straight up.

I said we need to talk briefly and he says very snotty "WELL I AM RIGHT HERE."

Explaiined to him the situation of him going to jail and blaming me and telling our DD that I am bad.

I said "why would you tell her that?"

He said "I didn't she (DD) was sad that I had to sit in jail." (his mouth quivering) he said "Why would you do that to me?"

I said "maybe you should pay for your responosibilities and you wouldn't have this problem. Regardless it falls on you for going to jail. I just helped the police out. But your GF and yourself are two big kids if you have something to say and you need to get your rocks off then call my phone number I think you know the number. Please spare our DD having to hear you rip me apart she unlike me does give a damn." (She is 6yr old) She told me it hurt her feelings. I had to teach her the old "sticks and stones." And she kept asking me it doesn't bother you that daddy says mean stuff? I said nope!

He said (of course)"No DD was just sad."

I said "how would she know if you didn't tell her. You know that the last time we went head to head you lost - remember you ran from the house threatening to call 911 on me because I beat your a**." (when he told me he introduced DD to her new sister when he denied the whole 9 months that he got another girl prego - sorry I had to beat him)

He said "whatever."

Then I said "Also DD does not like how GF rough houses her I am not accusing her for doing it on purpose, she better hope to GOD she didn't do it on purpose. But you know our DD is a wuss just like you so keep your hands off my DD like that."

He said "it wasn't like that."

I said "DD said you weren't even there. So how can you say oh becuase you take your GF word over DD? Regardless DD will tell me if it happens again and then both of you try to bend my legs up to my head and see what happens."

I walked away. He was speechless.

Don't mess with my kid. I didn't say that she intentionally did it I just said DD doesn't like it. I also told him "DD better not be repremanded for telling me about these two incidents. (he just stared at me) Oh and by the way that means she better not get in trouble for telling me!"

I did not do any of this in front of our DD she was still inside my parents house and she asked me to talk to her dad and tell him she didn't like it. I believe my DD do I think she is perfect hell nah but in these instances yes I believe her and you better believe you mess with my kid it comes with a wrath of fury......

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Registered: 08-04-2006
Sat, 08-12-2006 - 1:46pm

Darn skippy.
My blood is boiling just reading this. You go girl. I am the nicest girl ever unless someone messes with my babies. I think I actually grow horns and fur. lol.

That woman should not be putting her hands on your little girl period.

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Registered: 03-03-2006
Sun, 08-13-2006 - 4:30pm

For agreeing with me. I never thought I would have to worry about what MIGHT be happening to her when she isn't with me. I DO NOT believe she is abusing my DD but I do think she gets angry with her because she is MY DD.

At least now my DD knows that when you tell mom something that bothers you mom will make sure to talk to Dad about it. Believe me we have the next 12 years to have to deal with one another legally. I am sure it won't be that long because my DD will grow up a lot faster than him and his GF.

Thanks again for reading!!