tired. . (vent)--but a little good news
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| Thu, 04-19-2007 - 11:56pm |
Seeing as how my x and I can't get along AT ALL, I've asked for any non-emergency correspondence to be made by email. I keep track of all emails and it eliminates all of the stressful fights over the phone. A couple of weeks ago, I had emailed him about some visitation trades over the next several months. We had been conversing back and forth about them.
I had also called him on the phone(due to him not answering my emails about her insurance) about some information I needed. When his vm had picked up, I simply told him that I needed to talk with him about her insurance, call me back.
We went to court (again) on March 5 for some modifications. During that time, the ow (now the x's wife) was causing trouble. I spoke with my attorney and he advised me to have no further contact with her. He also included that in a letter to them--that she was to have no contact/communications with me. Any time I hear her voice on the other line, I was to simply hang up. So...
This afternoon, I got a call from her cell phone. Sometimes my x uses that phone, so I answer it thinking it might be him. As soon as I hear her voice, I hang up. She calls back so I let the machine get it. (I turned it off so my daughter does not hear it.) After the machine beeps signaling a message, I check it. She left a message in her sickly sweet, stab your back voice, she says, "Lauren it's ****, just calling to see how you were doing. Call me back. Love you." I tell Lauren that she called and ask if she wants to call her back. She says no. I tell her okay, just let me know when you want to and I would dial the number for her. She says, maybe later not right now. I said okay and we continued on. A few minutes later, the sm calls back. I do not pick up, I hit the end button on my phone to end the ringing and then again to stop the message screening. She did not leave a message.
I get an email tonight that says. . .
I am so sick of you being rude to me and my family. As for all of the trades you want you can forget it, that includes (my brother's wedding in Oct). Also, if you have something that you need to talk to me about then you can learn to leave a proper message or email me.
Why does he have to be so petty? I'm so tired of the bickering back and forth. Why does he consistently try to take advantage of me? He's just throwing a big temper tantrum because the judge didn't give him the full custody he asked for in court.
He told me several weeks ago that his insurance would not cover her here in MO (he lives in IN) unless I took her to the ER or Urgent Care. He also told me that the pharmacy I use was not covered under their insurance--only the one they used was. They (he and the sm)were trying to manipulate the situation to where only they could treat her asthma and allergies (despite the fact that I have her 9 months of the year). ARRRRGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!
He still has not given me a current address for his new residence. I had to call his insurance co. to find out my daughter's exact last date of coverage on his lapsed ins. plan before he got the new insurance plan. I was trying to get her put back on my insurance so I could make sure her asthma can be properly cared for and medicine purchased. I didn't have the proper address for him so they could not give me the info I needed. However, after I explained the situation to the ins. agent, they said that her doc was in the network and she was covered. I also found out that my usual pharmacy is covered as well. It ticks me off that they would try to manipulate the situation and end up hurting her essential medical care.
sorry it got so long. . . but thanks for reading it.

HUGS!
I just can't imagine every day being such a struggle to get the basics. And to have an X that claims to care, but it is all about ego/power. So sorry.
Hugs again!
M
You vent away. You are doing a great job caring for your little girl. I am so sorry you have to deal with their manipulations. If you don't give into their powerplays, they don't win.
Sending you lots of hugs.
Thanks M.
I'm used to his drama--I've been living with it for a while. I'm just sorry that her well-being is caught in the middle. But I can do everything in my power to shield her as much as I can.
Becka
That's my new 1/4 year resolution--to not give into his powerplays and always take the high road.
Thanks,
Becka