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Tomorrow is D day for me
| Wed, 04-27-2005 - 7:45pm |
Hi all,
I was on here about a year ago under a different user name, can`t even remember now what it was and my husband had just filed divorce papers on me. Well his lawyer dropped his case after taking $900.00 from him and I got a lawyer through legal aid. Now My daughter and I are living on our own, was living with my son and his family, and my husband and I have worked things out enough that we have become good friends and are willing to share custody of our daughter. We sign the divorce papers tomorrow and will go before the judge tomorrow. The thing is I am almost sick to my stomach at the thought of being divorced. I know that I can`t live with him and have no desire to do so and he has found someone else it is just the thought of not being married any longer after 20 years. Just need to hear from others that may be facing the same thing and have the same feelings. I am scare of what tomorrow holds and being single again. Why do I feel this way when we have been separated for over two years and are happier then we was together? I guess I am confussed about my feeling. I didn`t realize I would feel like this.
Thanks,
Becky
I was on here about a year ago under a different user name, can`t even remember now what it was and my husband had just filed divorce papers on me. Well his lawyer dropped his case after taking $900.00 from him and I got a lawyer through legal aid. Now My daughter and I are living on our own, was living with my son and his family, and my husband and I have worked things out enough that we have become good friends and are willing to share custody of our daughter. We sign the divorce papers tomorrow and will go before the judge tomorrow. The thing is I am almost sick to my stomach at the thought of being divorced. I know that I can`t live with him and have no desire to do so and he has found someone else it is just the thought of not being married any longer after 20 years. Just need to hear from others that may be facing the same thing and have the same feelings. I am scare of what tomorrow holds and being single again. Why do I feel this way when we have been separated for over two years and are happier then we was together? I guess I am confussed about my feeling. I didn`t realize I would feel like this.
Thanks,
Becky

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Remember it's only the "habit" and the "title" that you are missing. It's the uncertainty of the future that scares us to death.
Have you ever heard of the saying that everything happens for a reason? I believe in that FIRMLY. Your divorce is happening only to bring something new, exciting and positive into your life. It's making room for the good things that can happen now that YOU have control.
There is no reason to be afraid. We all miss the title of being
Thanks again,
Becky
Becky, from the sounds of it, he was pretty abusive to you. The fact that your child had to hide under the bed & cry when he came home .... you obviously are SO much better off. I dont know how he is being a differnt person, but i hope it stays that way for your daughters sake - & yours.
Best of luck - you will be FINE!
i think that every goes thru this - whether they are the ones who initated the divorce or not. i think (at least in my case) there is that feeling of "this is not what i meant when i walked down that aisle". i mean, nobody starts out marriage *wanting* to get divorced - in fact, that is precisely what we don't think about. in my case, i was also trying (i thought) to be especially careful, because i had already gotten divorced once before and i was determined NOT TO go thru that again. it is definately a period of mourning - mourning the marriage that we dreamed about, that we wished, that we wanted. you already KNOW that this marriage was bad for you - you KNOW that in your brain. now you just have to wait till your heart is in agreement. don't worry - you'll get there.
hugssssss
Becky
Becky
butterfly is right.... it's just a title.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Becky
After the muddle all wears off, you will feel better.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
R~
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