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Tomorrows My Birthday
| Fri, 06-01-2007 - 5:36pm |
So how bad do you think this weekend will be, tomorrow June 2, is my birthday and then if thats not bad enough Sunday June 3 would have been my anniversary... I am going out to dinner with my Sister and her husand and some family.. But it still is going to be sad for me.... But I guess the best birthday present I could give myself is to get over the Loser that left me behind.... Easier said then done...

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Sorry that all of these things are coming up all at once... my birthday was three weeks after xh moved out and it was incredibly hard... my anniversary was a bit later, but not much easier...
It will get easier with time... and things will start to turn around... I wish you a peaceful weekend...
*hugs*
Julie
Mine is Tuesday and I plan on celebrating having lost 230 pounds of ugly fat. Namely stbx, lol.
I can get over him leaving but all the crap he's spreading about how awful it was to live with me and how he only stayed for the kids is killing me. *I* am the one who stayed for the kids. He even put it in his match.com profile that the girls (the SOB put their picture on line) are the reason he stayed in our awful marriage. I'm so sick of this chit.
Anyway, happy birthday. May this one mark the beginning of a new phase of your life. A much better one.
I've come to the conclusion that he has to blame me in order to avoid blaming himself. The big difference between he and I is that I do accept some of the blame. He accepts none. It's all my fault.
I have to admit I pretty much checked out of this marriage when we went through marriage counseling. One of the issues discussed in counseling was my dad's suicide attempt. My dad couldn't take living alone after my brother got married. When it was time for him to be released, the doctors said he had to go live with someone. It was down to us but stbx put his foot down and said he wasn't coming here. Dad ended up moving in with his sister, who is still mad that his kids weren't there for him and I have to live the rest of my life knowing I turned my back on my dad in his hour of need for that SOB.
I have never hated someone so much in my life. I so wish he'd left back then. Then I could have had my dad move in with me and just maybe, he might still be alive today. (Dad ended up moving out of his sister's because there was too much friction with the family over his living there.) We don't know how long he was unconscious before he died or if something could have been done had he been found right away (since he collapsed at night, I would have been home). They said it had been, at least, 24 hours since he'd died when he was found.
So much crap for my heart to carry because I made a bad choice at 19 and married the wrong guy.
Edited 6/2/2007 7:59 am ET by gr8fulmom1
I know they would have been different for me. My dad was always there for me. Getting to return that favor would have been an honor.
I did what I had to do. You can't make your spouse take in your parent. However, for me, this is the point I checked out. I would stay for the kids past that but that was it. Now I wish I hadn't. They ended up being put through a divorce anyway. I should have just left and got a place with dad.
It amazes me how angry I am that stbx waited until now to leave. Sadly I know why now. I was one class away from a master of arts in teaching and a 50% pay cut. Apparently, I'm not longer worth putting up with at half the salary.
I hope his next girlfriend is high maintenance and bleeds him dry.
kathsassie
happy birthday to you happy birthday to you happy birthday dear kathsassie (if that is your real name :~) lol) happy birthday to you.
chin up girl. you are fantastic.
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