Took a big step

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Took a big step
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Sat, 06-10-2006 - 11:13pm
Anyone else have this problem? I do scrap booking for my boys. I haven't touched the stuff in nearly two years. Today I finally got out the stuff. I cried the whole time. The memories of our life together were almost to much. I do intend to keep with it though. Anyone else have trouble going through old photos? I feel so stupid.
Hugs, Brenda


Edited 6/10/2006 11:14 pm ET by mebrenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: mebrenda
Sun, 06-11-2006 - 6:18am

hugssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

you are not stupid at all!! you are sad and mourning a life that 'could have been'. totally understandable and normal. after my first husband (my son's father) and i got divorced - i was the same, i really missed him and missed our 'life' together, even tho i knew that there were problems that were just too deep.

put the albums away for now. deal with them later on when you are able to.

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Registered: 07-08-2004
In reply to: mebrenda
Sun, 06-11-2006 - 8:21am
That is a big step! I think looking through photos is very emotional. As a matter of fact, I was looking through an old photo album a couple of days ago, one from when my son was a baby. It was emotional to look back at many of the times I shared with the ex. I went through the same thing when DS and I were trying to make his memory page for his 5th grade yearbook. Photos are very powerful.




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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: mebrenda
Sun, 06-11-2006 - 8:31am

Actually I don't really have trouble going through the pictures. I FINALLY get that I was holding onto and missing my romanticized version of us and not the reality. Dr Phil actually talked with someone about that on Friday. The reality is that he wasn't a good husband. He did not make me feel special or loved. So, as long as I am looking at him through the eyes of reality, I don't miss him.

I DO have to get busy with the scrapbooking though. One would never know that I have a second child!!

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Registered: 06-04-2006
In reply to: mebrenda
Sun, 06-11-2006 - 8:44am
They say cryimg is part of healing method. I am not so sure because with all the crying I have done I should be healed forever. I Love scrapbooking and have experienced the same thing when my son looks at the old books. Let's just think of the futue pictures we will get to scrap. Much better times are ahead with pictures in our scrap book to prove it.