Took the high road and proud!

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Took the high road and proud!
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Mon, 01-16-2006 - 4:12pm

My ex sent me another zinger of an email with the old problem of me making my son take the bus to school rather than me driving him. He basically said that I have to drive my son to school because it's midterms this week and he needs to get there early to study!! I was livid that he had the nerve to order me around like that. I can't leave my 8 year-old at the school before 7:20 so if I take him after that then we'll make it there AFTER the bus does!

My son started in on me about it last night and I explained to him that it's not right for him and his father to tell me what I'm going to do and not going to do and that it's a slap in the face to me that he thinks it's selfish of me after all the things I do for him. On my weekends I take that boy everywhere he wants to go, and I dropped him off at the movies the other day and went shopping while he went and I helped him buy his new guitar.

I addressed the issue with my son and did NOT reply by email or phone to my ex. The heck with him, I'm going to ignore him. I'm fed up with him inventing problems to complain about.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 01-16-2006 - 4:36pm

"needs to get there early to study"??????


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Mon, 01-16-2006 - 6:11pm
Oh, you are GOOD! I'm proud of you. I would have been so angry if I read something like that, my head would have spun like Linda Blair from the Exorcist. Good for you for not responding. You handled the situation very well.
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Wed, 01-18-2006 - 5:50pm
Yeah well my cool reserve went out the window last night when he showed up 30 minutes late to get the kids. I was on call and had to work in the am and the deal is he picks them up at 8:00 if I work the next day. He went out with his GF and then just shows up like it's no big deal. I could NEVER get away with that. He already sent me an email telling me that I'm not to be late Thursday night!! So it's ok for him and not for me. I did not reply to the email and I'm not stooping to his level because it's hurting the kids.
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Registered: 12-01-2005
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 4:22pm
I totally agree with what your doing! Your shouldnt have to be taking orders from your X! My X is the same way! He calls to talk about things that arent important or are not about our kids, he'll text my phone at all hours of the night, and just recently he was so upset at me because I didnt answer his phone call. He must of called about 5 times in a row and left three messages! What do these MORONS think?! I had to make it clear to him that he is no longer a priority in my life!! Keep doing what your doing!!
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Fri, 01-20-2006 - 8:16pm

The new problem that is now happening is that he's showing up late to pick them up, the deal was 8:00 and lately it's been 8:30 or after. I panick because he's pulled a no-show before which meant I had to find back-up so I could go to work the next day.

I think to solve the problem I'm going to start dropping off at his place at 8:00 and leave my 15-year-old in charge if he's not there. That way he HAS to get his a$$ home on time.

Life has been much more peaceful since I decided to cut off contact with him and stick to the basics with no fights.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 01-21-2006 - 12:13pm
That sounds like a GREAT plan!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Sat, 01-21-2006 - 1:28pm
I have to admit that Thursday evening I was late going to his place to get them. A friend stopped by work to talk and then I had to run to the grocery store to get food for the cats (per my dd's request) and some breakfast food for the next morning. I had called him and told him to leave them at my house as it was unlocked and that I would be along ASAP. I just don't want to get in a pi$$ing contest with him regarding pick up times where he shows up late to "make up" for when I'm late. It's just not worth it.