Torn about leaving

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-02-2008
Torn about leaving
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Fri, 05-02-2008 - 11:28am

I've been married for almost 20 years and have 2 kids - 15 and 12.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 12:36pm
I would think only you could decide whether it's better to leave or be in a roomate situation.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 1:10pm
Only you can decide whether to stay or leave. I will tell you this, though. As women, we tend to put our needs and wants on hold. You have already been to counseling PLUS he has cheated on you twice! You do what you need to do to be happy because IF MOMMA AIN"T HAPPY, NOBODY"S HAPPY!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-02-2008
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 2:51pm
Carolina - I hear you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 3:01pm

I know when my ex cheated, a switch turned off. I could no longer trust him and I shut down. Counseling did not help. I have been where you are. I did leave 6 years ago when I was pregnant with my 3rd. I know it's hard but you need to do what you feel is right.


iVillage Member
Registered: 05-02-2008
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 3:26pm
I just don't want my decision to be based on these confusing feelings about Tom.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2005
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 6:20pm

My husband did not cheat on me in the physical sense--just on the net.

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