To try or not to try?

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Registered: 09-27-2006
To try or not to try?
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Sun, 11-18-2007 - 1:33am
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Registered: 02-15-2007
Sun, 11-18-2007 - 9:42am

"I knew we weren't meant for each other, though I know I still 'love' him as a father and a person."


Why would you return to a man that you can't trust and you clearly admitted that you aren't in love with anymore?

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sun, 11-18-2007 - 10:31am

Gem,


When did he break up with the girlfriend?


I'm asking because this sudden interest of his in getting back together with you smacks of a breakup with the girlfriend. He might be hedging his bets, i.e. his girlfriend dumped him so he thinks you're a good risk for taking him back. He'll stay until the next OW comes along and he'll leave again.


My advice? If you're truly interested in seeing if he's serious then return to marriage counseling, but don't move back in together. If he can make the appointments and come clean about his true feelings, you might have a chance.


If you're not interested in going there...don't. Tell him you've moved on with your life and while you plan to remain a good parent with him, you're not interested in renewing your relationship. He'll either beg and plead and promise things he can't do, or he'll accept it and leave you alone.


LEt us know how you're doing.

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