Trying to support a friend through divorce-help
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|Sun, 11-11-2012 - 12:11am|
A very good friend of mine is going through a divorce. I care for her, her husband and her children very much. Because of that, I want to be there for her, especially for her kids. But her behavior and attitude is really disturbing and I'm wondering if anyone else has gone through this before w/a friend or with their spouse. She and her husband have been married 9 years and have two young children. I found out in Sept. that they are separated as of that month. Basically she was not happy anymore. She is dating someone that she met in August. She told me it was mutual-her husband was also dating other people, but I'm not sure how accurate this is. First, she wants me to meet her new man and she's telling me how he buys her all these things, more adventurous sexually than her husband. It's just hard for me to hear this because I think she should focus on ending her marriage first and making sure she can support herself and her children instead of getting involved w/another man. Am I being a stick in the mud because I don't want to meet this guy? I'm still getting used to the idea of her and her husband (who I would consider a friend) not being together, it would be so strange for me to see her w/someone else. She's talking about them moving in together, her just bought her a puppy (already has 2 dogs!) just seems too much too soon. Sometimes I wonder if she is manic or has borderline personality disorder...I don't know, I know divorce is hard but this seems so out of character, or at least of the friend I thought I knew.