Ugh..just ugh, Part 6,038,286

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Ugh..just ugh, Part 6,038,286
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 11:48am

I know this is something I need to let go of, but I'm having a real struggle with it.

One of the problems my ex and I had while married was his neglect of our family to pursue his career. He's in television on a very small scale, and would make every and any live appearance he possibly could, sometimes during times when I really needed him not to. (Like our anniversary, or when our son was released from the hospital after a month long stay) His mother would babysit for us sometimes, but I couldn't have asked her to babysit as often as would have been needed for me to go with him. Plus, I did go a few times and my ex pretty much ignored me and would be short with so I stopped trying.

Where I'm having issues with letting go is that his gf is a woman who he met and has known for quite a while from some of these events. Now the two of them get to go to everything together. They look like the perfect couple in their own way. Well, it's really convenient, now isn't it? There are no kids around to keep either of them at home. They have no REAL responsibility other than living in their f'ing fantasy land. I admit I'm really bitter about this. My kids came home last night from weekend with dad and skank and neither of them had done their homework. Dad had taken them to an all day event Saturday and they were busy Sunday. Glad he is free to do as he wants and continue being irresponsible. Glad he gets to be fun dad and I get to be boring, stay-home-all-weekend-and-do-homework mom.

P.S. The small progress I'd made with skank is now gone. She's back to walking the kids and ex up to my doorstep and then ignore me.