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| Fri, 03-10-2006 - 7:50pm |
Well yesterday was court (again)and the day before I get a phone call from my stbx gf's boss saying she needed to talk to me about a "complaint" that his gf had filed...
Now we both work for the same police agency so I thought this would be an internal investigation...still I freaked!!!
So we go to court and among everything else stbx lawyer says this is 5-page complaint of harassment & that she is asking for written apology and an "undertaking" that I would not harass her again..oh boy!!
the "harassment" she is talking about is when I called her cellphone to talk to my stbx..he disconnected his..he had the kids and they were parked in my laneway.
So in the 5 page complaint she cited everything that I have complained to my stbx about the behaviour she has in front of my children...What business is it of the police department..I have only talked to her that once in the driveway in over a yr that they have been seeing each other..she even stated that I was harassing her even before I knew they were dating!!!
I called my union and asked them to come represent me..they talked to gf boss and she said not necessary ...just informal meeting...talked to my lawyer ..she said no problem ask to see a copy of the complaint..the only reason they won't let you is if it is a "criminal harassment complaint"..I was assured it was not.
I met with her boss and another supervisor..asked to see the complaint & was denied because it was a statement in a "criminal investigation"...WHAT???????
That was sinking low...I had no representation there nothing...I got up to leave & her boss said she just "wanted to hear my side of the story"...so without giving up too much I gave "my side"..they advised it wouldn't go any further & there would be no charges..CHARGES?????
What if they hadn't been so sympathetic to "my cause"? What if they had laid charges..what would that have done to my kids if they found out (I wasn't about to tell them)..
So it ended by saying ...not to contact or try to contact her for any reason...do not see her....hmmmm ought to be interesting since he is moving in with her next month and the kids will be visiting him at her house...any further complaints & there will be charges..
I could have thrown up...
This all took place today ...at my work...almost everyone in my office saw us go into the meeting..how humiliating..
I haven't and never have had any desire to talk or relate to her in anyway..she has been totally inappropriate in front of the children and I had been dealing with that with stbx..no more...the courts will have to decide..unfortunately ..there is a good chance it won't be in my favour..
sorry Im just babbling now...sorry its so long I just needed to vent..
Thanks
Annette

Good luck to you, your story really had an impact on me.
Rhea