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| Tue, 11-08-2005 - 6:06am |
I just got an e-mail from my lawyer - my stbx had his account do his books for the last year (he owns his own business)- says he had $400,000 in revenue but only made $32,000 at the end of the day..he has paid me/kids $27,000 in that time..$5000 for the new truck, 3 trips..one a sailing course in the Caymens new clothes..new furniture ..yeah right!
In Ontario, where I live, they have no fault divorce..in essence not a &*&* thing I can do about it! This made his child support for 3 kids go from $1600/month to $611/month
I am so mad I could spit!..my lawyer is also saying we can't prove otherwise?!
I am freaking out! I do work..make good money ..but it is occasional..what do I do?
quit & go on assistance. I'd be getting more for the kids & I would see them more?
Sometimes I feel like saying ..ok you win..take the house, the kids..they don't deserve to live on welfare because you want to "get back" at me..
I just don't know what to do.

Hi mom_nettiejane,
...know that we support you and will be there to help you vent. One thing I keep saying to myself is, he was like this during the marriage so it will be like this all the time. He did not change during the marriage so he is not going to change now that the marriage is over, no matter how much I would want this. (The problem for me is knowing and accepting are two different things :-) )
You are strong person and will do the best for you children. You will be able to keep your job and support your kids. Think of it this way: his lying, cheating self is no longer in control of your future. You make your future. You make your mood. You know how everyday will be. You can control this for yourself and your kids.
If he wants to give less support, so be it. Do not let it affect you emotionally. Think of his money as a bonus. If it shows up, it shows up, otherwise rely on yourself and your support group. The less you rely on him, or even care what he does, the less will affect you. You can do it all on your own.
If it feels overwhelming try to reach out to people that care, or support groups or local parish.
((HUGS))