Update (and advice)

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Update (and advice)
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Sat, 06-03-2006 - 7:57am
For those that don't remember, hubby and I've been separated since November. I bought a house and moved out in February. I have two kids (3 and 6) and the 6 year old has spina bifida. I have a degree in psychology and am now trying to get alternative certification for teaching in Florida. I decided this would the best bet since a year round job would require that I hire a nurse to care for my 6 year old when she is not in school. I interviewed for a job on wednesday. The description was "varying exceptionalities, intermediate." First, I felt I BOMBED the interview and once I got home, I felt that it was for the best. I learned that most of these kids had emotional disabilities. While I would be fine to work with them under other circumstances, I feel that since this is my first year as a single mom and first year that I will be a working mom that this job might take too much out of me. I still have to have something available to give to my own children. Well, I got a call late last night and was offered the job! I lied and said I had been offered something else. Don't ask me why I lied. It wasn't intentional. I think I was just in so much shock. She called on my cell and I just wasn't prepared. The problem is, I am still looking for a job in the school system and will probably see this principal at the job fair next week. I want to write or communicate with her that I interviewed with sincere intentions but after thinking about it after the interview, I was just worried that I would do a disservice to myself and her kids. What should I do? I interviewed for another job yesterday that would be a much better fit at this stage in my life. How do I get myself out of the pickle my mouth got me into? I mean I am SO honored that she would offer the job!! I am actually very bothered by this partly because I hate to say "no" to children but my gut just said it wasn't a fit for me at this time (and since I ignore my gut before my wedding...I am trying to listen to it more LOL). Any advice is appreciated!!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: kbach
Sat, 06-03-2006 - 8:09am
Just say that you had been offered something else..... that you thought would be a better fit... and you're still exploring your options while you think about that offer.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 07-08-2004
In reply to: kbach
Sat, 06-03-2006 - 9:20am
You can always say after she made the offer, you decided to reconsider. Karen's idea of writing the letter is a really good idea. But don't beat yourself up about it! Sometimes, it's hard to make a decision on the fly.




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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: kbach
Sat, 06-03-2006 - 11:12am
Thanks to both of you. I wrote a letter that bascially said what you advised. It is so hard to turn a job down but if at all possible, I want to be sure that I don't settle. I want to feel excited. The last thing I need is a job that I feel like a failure in! I am feeling much better after writing the letter. Thanks!!