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UPDATE AND MORE...
| Wed, 01-10-2007 - 8:53pm |
So a few weeks ago i came here to ask about lettimng my SOON to be EX husband in the delivery room and how my family didnt think i should. well i decided to let him in. im glad i did, i htink that was the best thing to do. so now i have more ?'s after we delt with court and all that, he would call me ALOT to talk about nothing, then when a new g/f would come in, he would stop calling... except these few months... he had a g/f for a very short time and he would call me once a day everyday. we somehow got to getting along great mostly becuase i still love him and i figured that if we went along this way, he would see how great we stil are and work on our family. so then they broke up and our calls went from once a day to 4-5 times a day. and we have gone to dinner and lunch and he wanted to go out and have fun before the baby was here. i wasent able to though. so after the baby , he has been at my house almost everyday. we talk on the phone all the time. when he wakes up, when he's on his way, when he's just at home, all the time! and lately he's been asking me if ppl ask me if we'll ever get back togetehr and that he tells them that maybe we will. until lastnight. he told me that his mom would want us to get back together (she was apposed to this idea a few weeks ago) and that he told her that were not becuase were better friends than anything. i dont think were better friends than anything, i mean sure we haven't faught since the split but thats because of me.. becuase i try hard to make our relationship work out as parents so that maybe we can be together. so i have had calls and visits up until lastnight, he got upset out of nowhere saying that i was never affectionit with him during our marriage and that he's mad at that. then i told him to get over the past so we can move foward for our kids and he said " i know, but i hold a grudge against you for that... your the only girl that gets me this way" and i was askign him why? and he just completly shut down and said he didnt want to talk about it. the whole ride home we were quiet and he didnt call me lastnightg or today all day. seems like he's upset or something. also 2 days ago i told him i was having a bad day ina text when he asked me how i was doing and he asked why and i told him that i couldnt do it on my own, having 2 small babies and taking care of them on my own was hard (something i shouldnt of said to him) and he never text me back. ao from that these two days i feel like he kinda pushed back. as stupid as it is, i like the calls, i like having some type of hope of getting back together. i have not told him that i want to try to work it out becuse im scared of what he woudl say. when he asks me if ppl ask me if were gettign back and what do i say... i always tell him that i tell other ppl that were deff. not getting back together. i want to be honest but i dont want to scare him away more now. i know, im complicated and wierd. i still love him. i want our family to be together again. should i let things be and fall how they may? or should i be honest with him and say " maybe later i would want to try to see where we go again"? Were both very young 24. so lately he has been going out alot with his buddies and he loves that. so thats another reason why im sure he wouldnt want to be "tied down". He is ona dating site also and talks to ALOT of girls! nothing serious i know, but why is he on a dating site looking for long term relationaships when he has a family still wanting him.
our divorce is about to be final this next month i belive and i cry everyday over it. i don't want it. i want to be with him still. sometimes i feel like were getting alogn so great and he misses me becuase he says htings like " i love you this way, it reminds me of why i married you, but other times i feel like he doesn't love me anymore and thinks this divorce is best. should i keep this to myself and let it be or should i say something before the divorce is final? ( oh he also asked me a week agowhats happening with our divorce and i told him we would get papers to sign and then it will be final and he asked me "what if i dont sign it?" what the hell!
sorry i was a scatter brain im not all here today.
thanks...
our divorce is about to be final this next month i belive and i cry everyday over it. i don't want it. i want to be with him still. sometimes i feel like were getting alogn so great and he misses me becuase he says htings like " i love you this way, it reminds me of why i married you, but other times i feel like he doesn't love me anymore and thinks this divorce is best. should i keep this to myself and let it be or should i say something before the divorce is final? ( oh he also asked me a week agowhats happening with our divorce and i told him we would get papers to sign and then it will be final and he asked me "what if i dont sign it?" what the hell!
sorry i was a scatter brain im not all here today.
thanks...

It kind of sounds like he only wants whatever is working for him right at the moment... and he's not really willing to invest anything long term into any relationship.
I mean... asking other people what they think???
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
From what I remember about your previous posts months back was that you and your husband had been in physical altercations with each other. Didn't he push you while you were pregnant with the child you just had?
I think the first thing you should do is get some counseling. The last thing your children need is to have parents that are beating on each other.