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Update and venting
| Sun, 01-07-2007 - 11:09pm |
Hey there--I thought I would give an update. It's been a long week here. First the drama with the ex and then DD got the stomach flu. Ever since she told me that she wanted to go live with her dad, I've been wishing that I could've held back the tears when she was in the room--but I couldn't. Now she is needing to be close to me ALL THE TIME!! It's driving me nuts. She even cries for me in the afternoon while she's at her grandparents' house before I get home from work (she's 8). She hasn't gone through separation anxiety since 2003 when he kept her from me for three months, not allowing any physical contact and very little phone contact. She's afraid that I won't love her anymore if she makes a mistake--although I've assured her several times that I will love her no matter what happens in the future. The slightest little thing makes her cry. Things had settled down (a little) until Friday night. I had worked all day. Her dad called before we got home and left a message at home and on my cell phone. I had her call him back. I think she talked to him for MAYBE 5 minutes. Then the OW got on the phone--and started immediately pumping her for information. Did I take her to see her attorney? Had she been taking her medicine every day? What had I said about her wanting to move? Had I been talking to her about the case anymore? Trying to push the move to her dad's. It went on and on. When I started hearing the answers that DD was giving and knew she was being "pumped," I told her we had to go get her stuff from my parents' house. I gave her 2 minutes to get off the phone. After she had finished with the OW, she handed the phone back to me and told me that her dad wanted to talk to me. He asked me if I had taken her to see her atty. I told him that DD was in hearing distance and I wasn't talking about it where she could hear me. He asked me again. I gave him the same answer. He asked me again. I told him that I wasn't speaking to him about it right then, he would have to call back later. He told me that I just didn't want to talk to him about it at all. (Well, duh! That's what we have the attys for!) Then I hung up on him and we left. It made me so ticked that he would try to make me talk about the case in front of her again. We stayed at my parents' house for a short while. After I got back home before I sent her to bed, I sat down with her and apologized for my part in putting her in the middle. I told her that it wasn't right of me to do that and I was going to try not to do it again. I gave her a hug, told her I loved her, then asked her to get ready for bed. Then I stared to check my email. I have two different email addresses--a hotmail account for communication with the ex and one for everything else. When I went in to check my hotmail address it made me change my password. This told me that someone (them) is trying to break into my email account. They've done it to me before. Since I wouldn't rise to their bait, they are going to try to get their information another way. I keep a copy of every email we send back and forth. I had to move them, plus any other unrelated emails I had in there. My attorney is supposed to call me sometime this week about the depositions on Friday. When that happens, I'm filling him in. I think I'm gonna go nuts!!

Yikes!
I always save all important e mails on my computer... I also download all of my mail into Outlook, so it's not sitting on a remots server.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
He lived 4 hours away and he's whining about a change in sitters????
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~