Update on my life....
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| Sun, 10-01-2006 - 11:25pm |
Well, it's been a long time since I've posted. My ex husband and his girlfriend "found" me on here and trash talked. But, whatever...I've not done anything wrong--I'm not hiding...
Me: I'm terrific. I've got a wonderful "person of interest" (LOL) that has become steadily more serious over the last 4 months or so. We are taking things very slow right now, which is more than fine by me. Our conversations flow and minutes on the phone turns into hours. I haven't laughed in such a long time. Being with him is like being with my best friend. We just fit. I cry to him and he just hugs me and cuddles with me. I can tell him my fears and he has this way of alleviating them. He has a way about him (it's his voice) that instantly calms me down. one day at a time.....
My kids: are great. They are the best kids anyone could ever ask for. my oldest is in a HUGE growth spurt--he gained 7 1/2 pounds since 6/16 and grew 2 1/2 inches since then. he'll be 13 soon, but is still the most kind, caring, compassionate young man I've seen. My youngest is still my comedian. He's spoiled and he knows it! He loves to cuddle with me and just talk to me about our days. He's a special kid who just makes me smile. They both have been through hell this last month or so. They are adjusting and dealing with things making up their own opinions.
My ex: Was sent to jail for 1 week from 9/11 to 9/18. I finally stood up for myself and pursued the child support AND 40K judgment he owed me. We went to court on the 11th and he was sent to jail with bail (cash only-no 10%) at $10,000. I got harassing calls from his brother accusing me of "sending the father of my kids to jail as if he was a criminal". on the 18th, bail was reduced with the promise of weekly child support. He got out ($3200 bail with it all going to me-haven't received it yet) on 9/18. I've yet to see any child support. I do have a restraining order on him (only me, not my kids), but he has not come to see them. Fine by me. They dont' have any desire....On MSN messenger he put on there "I am now a happily married man!". This is how my kids found out he married that 25 yr old girl whom they don't like. Want to talk about hurting a kid to the core? You should've seen my sons faces. Broke my heart. Miraculously, I had no feelings whatsoever. I feel bad for the girl because she thinks she can change him. Who in their right mind would marry a knowingly deadbeat?? Oh well.
I am now on medication for my heart as well as overwhelming anxiety I've been dealing with for the last month or so. It's definitely helping.
Things are falling into place. Once I begin getting CS, I will be more relaxed and stable. It's hard to make ends meet with 2 boys who are growing like weeds, needing new clothes every few months PLUS pay for sports--all on my own. Not to mention my son needs braces again--to the tune of $3800.
Life is hectic, but life is very good. funny how that works out!!
I hope you all are doing well!
Hugs
Deb


:-)
It's good to see ya.
Ya know, the one thing that I've never doubted is the depth of a wonderful person that you are.... you are much stronger than you give yourself credit for, you do manage to pull it all off for your kids.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Hi Deb,
It's good to see you again. I'm glad your children are doing so well and that you're dating someone nice. It does happen! Poo-poo on your Ex and his Twinkie. He doesn't have a clue what its about and never will. Take care of yourself!
wisdomtooth
Deb, good for you! I'm glad you came back and posted. You sound strong and happy. I am really glad you pursued the child support and money your ex owes you. He has NO ONE but himself to blame for landing in jail. And your kids sound great. It is really, truly unfortunate that your ex didn't see fit to tell them he was getting married. Sad. I'm getting married again soon, and I can not imagine excluding my son.
I hope you continue to pop in and grace us with your wisdom :)