Update on my step mom

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Update on my step mom
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Tue, 08-02-2005 - 3:32pm

HI guys,


I just wanted to say thank you to all who sent positive thoughts and prayers our way.


I apologize for not being around much, I am slowly getting back into the regular routine and from this point I should be back on the boards in full force.


My step mom passed away Saturday July 30 at 5am. They removed her fully from life support at 3pm Friday and she passed Saturday morning.


The damage to her brain was basically the entire front half. That section of the brain holds who you are, personality, emotions, problem solving, thinking.... all of those things. Basically, Karen died the day this happened. She was awake at times and moving her fingers when asked, but, she was completely gone. The damage was just too bad. They let her go. If they hadn't, she would have lived on machines and in a home for the rest of her life. That is not something she would have wanted. Her daughter made the choice.


Anyway, I have been having a really hard time with this. I go from being fine one minute to the next balling my eyes out. I hurt for my dad and I miss Karen so much. My dad is in Virginia all alone. I just couldn't imagine being in his position.


Anyway, before I go off forever in ramblings... I just wanted to say thank you to all.


Hugs,


Angelena


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Registered: 05-07-2003
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 4:36pm

I'm very sorry for your loss, Angelena. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Susie

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 9:18pm
Ang, I'm so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts.
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 9:59pm

((((((((((((Angelena)))))))))))))))!! I am so sorry. Hugs, Brenda

PS I absolutely LOVE the new picture!!!!!!! You are BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!!!!!

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 6:43am

Thank you. Your sweet :)


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Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 9:53am
I am sorry for your loss :(

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 9:56am

Thank you everyone who sent their condolences.


It's been really hard for me. It's been about 20 years since anyone close to me in my family has passed. I am not sure how to handle things.... hopefully I am doing ok just being there for my dad. I know he needs me.


Hugs to all and thank you again :)


Angelena






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Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 9:59am
It just takes time. It might also help to search online for information on the grieving process. It always helped me to understand that it was a process, even though it doesn't always happen the way the books describe, it's generally close enough.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 10:00am

Angelena,

I'm so sorry to hear that your step mom has passed... it's never easy. Please let me know if there is anything I can do...

Sending thoughts and prayers for peace to you and yours...

Julie and Joey