Update for the ones that has followed me
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Update for the ones that has followed me
| Sat, 11-04-2006 - 11:50am |
Well tonite was senior night at the football game. I walked out on the field with my daughter. They announced her daddy and my name. She was o.k. until it was over. She was crying so hard...don't know if it was for me or for her. I was really surprised at how many divorced parents were together for their child tonight. About an hour before the game a friend of mine called and said that my husband and his 22 year old was at a car lot looking at cars....she must have money because he doesn't -- my friend saw my husband talking on a pay phone at a store and she pulled up to him and asked him what was going on...he told hernothing -she asked him who the woman was and he said a 22 year old friend he was just riding around with. He told her that he didn't want to talk to me -- one day in the future he might -but not in person - she told him the only way he would be able to ever talk to me would be at work. She asked him why he hadn't had anything to do with his children. He said because he didn't want them to ask him to come home or to stay....what the heck....they probably would never do that anyway. She asked him if he was on drugs and he said no that he hadn't done drugs in years. What a laugh. She asked him if he had a job and he said he was starting one Monday.. where he would get on a bus here in Georgia and go down to Pensacola and drive from there....the woman must be paying the way. That was probably all a lie anyway. This has really hurt today....it was like the day he told me back in September before he left that he didn't call here because he didn't want to talk to me. I tried so hard to forget that statement. My friend said he asked what I had done....I told her she should have said screwed every 19 year old in town....just kidding --- no I really did say that --- but of course it isn't true. She said he was talking about like filing for divorce. She told him she didn't know. I know he knows because that friend of his that caused all the problems to begin with told me he told him. So I guess tonight I officially consider my marriage over....he has truly left me. My friend told me this morning that he didn't actually say 22 year old - she asked him who the woman was that he had been riding around town with was and he said "she ain't a woman - she's just a youngun" isn't that really perverted. I am honestly feeling SO BAD this morning. I just can't make myself understand how he has walked out and left EVERYTHING. Clothes, tools, just stuff and most of all his kids. It should have been me leaving him...I'm the one that hasn't had affairs, havent' done drugs, been arrested or had 200 jobs. I sure wish i knew in Georgia how long it takes for your license to be suspended. I know the notice has been sent into the state but that was like the 24th of October. I guess I will never understand why he left. I feel so empty this morning, so void....we had always done things together - and I'm not the type nor would i want to do things alone. So I guess ---I don't even know what i guess. I just know that I'm not the type of person to want to be alone I have always said that.....I know I have my children but that's not what I mean. I feel like just breaking down and crying for hours.

Please stop doing this to yourself. You will never understand why he is the way he is because you are not a man. What you should do is not even get information about him. It only upsets you more.
He is a disgusting human being for not being there for his daughter. She knows it too. You should, however be sure not to speak badly about him, just support her.
He obviously has some major issues, would you really want him around?
Vent anytime you want here. I do it too!!!
I also vent in Toxic relationships and survivors of Domestic Violance because i am a member.
He is not worth your thought. Forget about him.
Being single sucks. it is frightening and scary. i joined support groups and clubs.
You sound like a great mom. Stay involved and love your life. you can do it.
Oh, gal_jasper, that is so hard! My heart is breaking for you just reading your post. You have to let this go, as much as it hurts. You are going to get through this and go on and be happy again. You are a strong women, and you will be able to make a better life for yourself and your kids. It will get better. Hang in there.
Sending you hugs and tons of positive thoughts,
Rebecca