Update: We're filing the contempt motion

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Update: We're filing the contempt motion
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Tue, 09-12-2006 - 8:24pm

Of course, typical, no one TOLD me.

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Tue, 09-12-2006 - 9:52pm

*hugs*

I'm sending some of my leftover "good juju" your way.

I hope this is over soon for you and Averey!

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 11:52pm

"Averey, I don't want daddy to get into trouble either.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Wed, 09-13-2006 - 10:58am

(((hugs))) I am so sorry. That is terrible! It breaks my heart to read it.

Kate

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Wed, 09-13-2006 - 12:54pm

Yeah, this sucks. I wish it did not.

I'm going out on a limb here, but I would conjecture that your stbx sees you as operating your daughter like a robot. So anything she says or does is at your behest and under your strict guidance/instruction.

And now for the cold bucket of water thrown into your face .....

Your daughter is reaching the breaking point. The fast the she wants to "protect daddy" is a bad sign. And it is not entirely stbx's fault. You have a part in this too -- the fact the she is compelled to act is a clear indication that she knows too much adult information, and that either you, stbx or both of you have invested her with an adult status within the family. She's a child. She is ill prepared to handle adult situations. As a matter of fact, it may drive her insane.

So here's the rub -- it's now a contest between who is more reckless to your daughter's well being, you or your stbx.

For your daughter's sake, it needs to be over right now. Not tomorrow, not next month. Today. And she does not care one iota about legal/financial issues.

So what would it take to make that happen today. How much would you lose if you caved in on every issue today? Because from here on out, and until your case is settled, those issues, the legal fighting, and the stress that comes from it, are costing the health and well being of your daughter. So the longer your fight, the worse off she gets. So whatever you fight for, it had better be worth it. Even if everything you are trying to get is rightfully yours, even if you are legally entitled, even if its morally proper, the time spent is harming her.

Clearly, stbx is very reckless, and does not see the impact to his daughter. He's willing to trade on his daughter's welfare to be victorious over you. Are you doing the same thing?

As to what the courts can and cannot do -- be prepared to be completely underwhelmed! Your opinion of how the stbx deals with you and your daughter is nearly irrelevant to the court. Most courts don't care unless your stbx get convicted of a felony. You will spend years and lots of money pursuing relief through the courts.

That's just the way it is. Everybody loses. I'm sorry, and if I could change it, I would. Get done as fast as possible.

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Wed, 09-13-2006 - 1:24pm

I disagree.


I DO agree that she knows way too much adult information that she shouldnt, & i especially agree that it is a horrible sign that she is trying to protect him. More than anything, that breaks my heart. I know the cycle of abuse from the abused side, & that alone is an ominous sign of her mental status. & I am doing everything possible to intervene to help.


I am not saying I am faultless. But I AM saying that I have not ONCE, not one single time, purprosefuly put her in the middle, shared info with her that isnt appropriate, or bad mouthed her father. ALL the info she has ever gotten from ME, was b/c I wasnt given a choice. It was in direct response to something he did or said, & left me

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Wed, 09-13-2006 - 2:36pm

See the teddy bear emoticon?... He's passing out a really, really, really BIG hug.


Trying to protect your child, while not breaking the law yourself... ain't easy.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 09-15-2006 - 12:59pm
Oh Rebecca it breaks my heart everytime I read what this jerk does to your sweet baby girl. I hope the courts wise up.

Smile,

Deirdre