The Vampire Saw the Sun

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Registered: 04-23-2012
The Vampire Saw the Sun
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Mon, 09-24-2012 - 9:59am

Last week,  as I was driving home along the main avenue I pulled up next to a flashy red car at the stop light only to see that it was my ex-husband.  I was in good company (my mother and children were with me) so when I turned to see who was next to me I naturally had a smile on my face and was in the midst of conversation with with my mother.  We were laughing about a movie that we had just seen. I smiled in my ex's general direction and he in turn blocked his face with his hands and made it very obvious that he did not want to see me.  The only way I could describe what he did is that it was similar to when a vampire sees the sun (in movies).  That is exactly how my ex threw his hands up over his face.

Okay.  Our divorce has been final for over a month now (yay!).  I am used to my ex not being around (he has been a deadbeat for over a year) but for him to express such dramatics over seeing me?  I can do without the face blocking.  I could care less if he had turned away,  ignored me,  pretended to shuffle around in his car until the light turned green.  But was it necessary to throw his hands over his face?  I mean,  the reaction seems so immature and unnatural.  I am a little annoyed by this and do wonder what it means and why he felt the need to do it. 

Running into each other is not unusual.  We live in the same neighborhood.  But,  this could have happened at a store or resturant too.  What is he gonna do if the children approach him?  I can handle him actling like a fool but I worry how his reaction will effect my children.  My daughter was asleep when we had seen him but my son waved at the car.  He couldnt see who was in the car but he waves to any red car if it reminds him of his father.

-BadAssMommy

 

 

 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 09-27-2012 - 4:02pm

I would keep smiling just so he wonders why you're so happy without him.

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Registered: 09-24-2012
Thu, 09-27-2012 - 4:40pm
So true musiclover!

"34. The best revenge is happiness, because nothing drives your adversaries more insane than seeing you smile"
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Registered: 04-23-2012
Fri, 09-28-2012 - 3:14am

Then I shall keep on smiling...=D.

 

Thanks, girls.  Loving the comments.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 09-28-2012 - 8:53am

Its been so long since my divorce but I was just remembering something that happened.. Me and ex were living in same house while the divorce was going through and I was taught from a counselor not to let ex know  you were feeling bad.. Mine has narcisstic personality disorder and they love when someone is hurting and scared.. So I always had to turn the tables and make him think I was fine with the divorce all the way I was really really scared inside.. So at times when he assumed I was scared and nervous I would find a way to say how happy I was when this would be over.. I was thinking of going on a nice cruise or moving to another state or just spending my money on nice things.. that would get my ex;es goat.

I know you cant do this right now but I would just keep smiling at your ex if you see him or acting like you are very happy and as they say living well is the best revenge.. Not sure how you would convey this across to your ex anymore but if you ever get the chance make sure your ex knows you are doing well even if you arent.. Its like fake it till you make it..type of thing.

For me it was very diffcult to act happy and be all smiley as i kep wondering about myself being homeless and all.. (ha ha)...but I never let my ex see me sweat..

 

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