The Vampire Saw the Sun

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The Vampire Saw the Sun
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Mon, 09-24-2012 - 9:59am

Last week,  as I was driving home along the main avenue I pulled up next to a flashy red car at the stop light only to see that it was my ex-husband.  I was in good company (my mother and children were with me) so when I turned to see who was next to me I naturally had a smile on my face and was in the midst of conversation with with my mother.  We were laughing about a movie that we had just seen. I smiled in my ex's general direction and he in turn blocked his face with his hands and made it very obvious that he did not want to see me.  The only way I could describe what he did is that it was similar to when a vampire sees the sun (in movies).  That is exactly how my ex threw his hands up over his face.

Okay.  Our divorce has been final for over a month now (yay!).  I am used to my ex not being around (he has been a deadbeat for over a year) but for him to express such dramatics over seeing me?  I can do without the face blocking.  I could care less if he had turned away,  ignored me,  pretended to shuffle around in his car until the light turned green.  But was it necessary to throw his hands over his face?  I mean,  the reaction seems so immature and unnatural.  I am a little annoyed by this and do wonder what it means and why he felt the need to do it. 

Running into each other is not unusual.  We live in the same neighborhood.  But,  this could have happened at a store or resturant too.  What is he gonna do if the children approach him?  I can handle him actling like a fool but I worry how his reaction will effect my children.  My daughter was asleep when we had seen him but my son waved at the car.  He couldnt see who was in the car but he waves to any red car if it reminds him of his father.

-BadAssMommy

 

 

 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 09-24-2012 - 10:46am

It reminds me of when people accused of crimes are brought into court and want to hide their faces from the TV cameras.  Seriously, the guy is a nut if he can't even look you in the face.  I guess it was his reaction to pretend it wasn't him--but he just made it more obvious.  Maybe he thought you were laughing at him.

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Registered: 04-23-2012
Mon, 09-24-2012 - 12:19pm

I doubt he thought that I was laughing at him being that I was smiling and having a good time. It wasnt like I was in complete hysterics, pointing and laughing and being silly.  I was actually very happy and enjoying the day.  A lot of great things happened last week so its been tough to erase the smile off my face.  And it feeks good to say that.

Im going more with "hes a nut: since my uncle said the same thing.  LOL.  Perhaps he cannot face me.  Afterall,  he is an adulterer and now everyone knows.  Even me. 

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 09-24-2012 - 12:53pm

I also will go along with he is a nut and would like to add idiot ..

the only way I describe my mentally insane ex now to people after so many years is oh; yeah; we got divorced because he is a NUT JOB . end of story..

 

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Mon, 09-24-2012 - 5:21pm

Mommy,

You win the prize for one of the best headlines Ive seen on this board! :smileyhappy:

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Registered: 04-23-2012
Tue, 09-25-2012 - 11:09am

Wisdom, FreeAt Last, and Music...

You all gave me a giggle. 

And thank you, Wisdom.  Being creative is fun.  And that was the best way I could describe his reaction. :smileywink: It is nice to get a little laugh out of it.  Thanks, girls.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 09-25-2012 - 2:42pm
You ought to get yourself a big ol cross and keep it in your glove box in case you ever see him again. lol
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Registered: 08-11-2008
Tue, 09-25-2012 - 6:03pm

I agree with the others the only way to explain it is he is NUTS.  The Vampire bit is a great description. 

Think of this was as well, he knows your car as well as you know his.  He was already stopped and saw you coming.  You looked happy and laughing and from your previous posts you said he was regretting his decision.  Now you look around as many people do when stopped at a traffic light, its your ex and he reacts like the VAMPIRE afraid of the sun.  What happens is he gets a reaction out of you, or at least he has you thinking about why is did it.  I imagine that you children if they are younger will find it funny the first couple of times not understanding the sheer idiocy of it.  If they are older the will look with disdain and think privately get me away from these weird people called my parents. 

The next time he does something like this I would suggest that you keep walking, ignoring, or looking around like he is a nobody acting strangely.  If there is no reaction from you, he has lost his power.  It sounds easy as I write it but I know from many times that it isn´t.  My ex doesn´t act like a vampire but still sends me emails expecting me to take care of whatever he demands right away as if we were still married.  I learned the hard way not to reply.  If I did it would be 20 emails later and not one thing resolved.  Now if he sends me an email, I open it in my own time and never respond unless it has to do with our youngest sons travel plans.  And then it is only one or two lines agreeing or disagreeing with his plans.  This has helped me deal with the nut who is my EX. 

Emom13

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Registered: 04-23-2012
Wed, 09-26-2012 - 2:19am

Peaceyma...too funny!  Keep a cross in the glove box? Love it!!!  That was awesome!

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Registered: 04-23-2012
Wed, 09-26-2012 - 2:26am

Emom,

Here is the funny thing.  I had just purchased myself a brand new 2013 automobile so he had no idea who pulled up next to him.  He immediately recognized my face but is probably wondering who the car belongs to.  LOL. 

Now,  is it wrong to smile at him?  I figured its better than giving him the evil eye (though he deserves that more).  But ignoring him?  Will that send a strong message?  I kinda think that is a better idea.  To ignore him.  I feel like there is no correct way to handle him.  It is just so awkward. I feel that his face blocking was his nasty way of saying "I want nothing to do with you" or "buzz off". I would like to think he tried to cover his face over some type of fear of facing me but thats not him.

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Registered: 09-24-2012
Thu, 09-27-2012 - 2:57pm
Even better than a cross - keep some cloves of stinky garlic to toss in his direction the next time!

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