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Very difficult situation
| Sat, 09-23-2006 - 9:14pm |
Hi, I'm new to this message board. I have a very difficult situation. To make the long story short, one month before I gave birth my husband started having a manic episode (He is bipolar). I didn't know this side of him but his family told me that he has been thru that twice before. The manic episode made my husband behavior very unpredictable so when I was in the hspital I had to report the situation to a social worker and I even had to go to the court and request a restraining order wish was approved for one year, after that he violated the restraining order and was put on yale for 1 1/2 weeks. Now three months after I gave birth to our beautiful daughter he moved to a very far state is asking for the divorce and claims that our daughter is not his. He is asking for a paternity test. I don't mind doing it since I am 100% sure that is his daughter. I was never unfaithful to him, NEVER.The thing is that he doesn't want to pay the child support stated by the court. I don't know how the law works but is very frustrating since I have not receive a penny for our daughter and there will be a hearing this monday in wish the judge is going to talk about the child support and criminal charges since my husband violated the restraining order. That I know he is not going to show up at the hearing for what his father told me. I will like to hear some advice from you if you have been thru this or have hear of a similar case (wish I bet is not that common).

My x is bipolar with frequent episodes of mania. I don't really have any suggestions for you other than you need to understand that he is going to exhibit impulsive behavior, often be irrational, and can be paranoid and aggressive, will have difficulty taking responsibility for any of his actions. As much as I hate to say it, it is probably good that he moved far away. If he is in a "bad place" mentally - he will probably continue to deny paternity even in light of a paternity test. Reality will be based on his beliefs, which may not necessarily concur with the real world. Good luck to you.
Tina
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~