Virtual Visitation

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Virtual Visitation
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Thu, 03-30-2006 - 1:04pm

My stbx keeps mentioning this "vitual visitation" idea to me. He says that he read about it on the CNN website. He seems to think it's a great idea and that he needs to do it. I think that it will be nice for my DD (2) to hear his voice and see his face when he can't be with her. However, I roll my eyes because in my opinion this in no way shape or form replaces traditional inperson visitation. At two years old my daughter needs a male (her Daddy) in her life. And seeing him on a webcam and on "occassional" weekends doesn't cut it and I don't plan on letting him for one second think he's father of the year, even on his best days.

I intend to look in to this idea even if stbx does not because it is in my daughters best interest. I hope that he really does come around and do the best he can even though he'll be hours away, for my daughters sake. All I ask is for him and his family to be there for her when she wants them there! And I mean that within reason of course.

I can't help but feel like my DD is going to have more healthy interaction with her father once we live 8 hours away than she does on a daily basis now. It's a lot easier to put on a fake smile for 20 minutes on a webcam than it is when you have to deal with a spoiled rotten (my spoiled rotten :)) little girl day in and day out when you're like my stbx and don't know how to handle stress and you don't really want to accept responsibilities.

Please share your thoughts on this and your experiences as well.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sat, 04-01-2006 - 9:51am

i moved here as a kid - part of the big zionist movement after the 6 day war. what i mean is of course- that i was 'brought' here as a kid, not that i 'chose' to move here.


i used to go to the boards that were the ivillage predecessor - i forget what it was called - at the time i had cancer and i went on for cancer support, and then i had issues with my then-husband and with my son, and so then i found other boards that were interesting etc etc etc.


sounds like you have a very interesting career!!

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Sat, 04-01-2006 - 9:53am


Oh, you are 100% right on that one! It's great as an addition to visitation, but DEFINITELY not as a replacement. It sounds like it would be good if there are great distances between parents due to work or military service, but not in place of regular custody. I hope your STBX understands this.




What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Sat, 04-01-2006 - 10:01am

My job is usually fun, not so much when I have to interview the relatives of a murder victim, but I do get to see a lot of the country.

Sounds like you must live an interesting life. Can you travel to Jordan or Lebanon or are those considered unsafe areas for Israelis? Are you old enough to remember the Yom Kippur War? Do you get back to the U.S. often? How does your daily life differ from life in the states?

Hope that you don't think I'm being nosy. I'm just curious.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 11:51pm
LOL... my eyes roll at the sight of....... ORANGE!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 7:54am

The weather got here around 3 a.m. At least that's when my 8-year-old and my 4-year-old jumped in my bed. The little one especially is afraid of thunder.

Yep, there is a lot of Orange around here. The bad thing is that I got my undergrad at UGA. During football season I feel like I'm being held as a P.O.W. in some forgein country!

Your lucky to live in Nashville, its a fun town.

Have a great week.

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