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| Mon, 03-27-2006 - 7:21am |
I'm home with my daughter all week and her father comes to visit her in the evenings from about 5:30 until she goes to bed and then on the weekends he visits her most of the day. He was still living here with us until this past Thursday, when I asked him to leave.
This weekend my STBX acted like I was expecting him to spent too much time with our daughter. He said, "I had her all day Saturday"...well news flash...SHE'S YOUR KID!
How do I learn to let this roll of my back? Once we move away and in to our own place he will probably only see her occasinally and these issued will go away, hopefully. But for the next month we are still here and I have to deal with him visiting in the evenings and on weekends....and then complaining about it.
I don't have it in me to tell him he can only see her weekends or limiting his visits.
Thanks for any advice.

Do you have a separation agreement in place yet? If not, that will be the time where you can come up with a custody/visitation arrangement that he needs to adhere to. He may not want to adhere to it, but at that point, you can just refer to the agreement if he claims he's spending "too much time" with his child.
I am sorry your STBX is behaving like this. I have a hard time understanding people who act like being a responsible, loving parent is a huge imposition.
You need something in writing that defines when it's his time and when it's your time.... you're both parents, and you both need to know what's expected.... especially in a time of transition.
I still get frustrated with my EX when I need him to pick up some extra time here and there (and I know that my kids would love that extra time)... and he acts like he can't be bothered.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~