visitation vent....ggrrrrr

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Registered: 06-17-2004
visitation vent....ggrrrrr
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Sat, 07-09-2005 - 11:35am
I am SOOOO PO'd right now!!!! STBX has spent less than one hour with his one week old son. He was supposed to come and see him yesterday and, of course, never called or showed up. I finally talked to him and he said he wanted to come by today. Well, I knew he had to be at work by noon, so at 10:30 I called and asked if I should expect him. He said he had to work till 3am (DOUBTFUL!!) and was just getting up. AND?!?!?? Even if he DID actually work that late, so what? I was up until 3am as well with a newborn!! I didn't sleep for more than 20 minutes at a time all night long! He finally passed out at 4am and at 5:30am I had my two-year-old poking me in the eye. He's also not feeling well (throwing up and diarriah) and I NEED A BREAK!! I just wanted a thirty minute nap while he was here!!!! So he said he'd come and help tomorrow...I just said 'whatever' and hung up. He'll show up when he eventually rolls out of bed around 2pm or so. I'm just sooo pissed that he expects me to be sympathetic that he got ONLY 7 hours of sleep while I got next to NONE!!! Plus, he shorted me $180 on child support, it went up this month b/c Brody was born and I will have no paycheck for the next two months b/c I was on bedrest and now maternity leave (I get no benifits). My rent check will barely clear and I don't know how I'm going to buy diapers, or even put gas in my car to get to the store to
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Registered: 03-06-2005
Sat, 07-09-2005 - 12:38pm

Wow, I am so sorry. The pressure and stress of a newborn plus a "daddy" that is acting like a child. You certainly have your hands full.


Hugs to you......


I hate to admit it, but I went through the same thing. I had no help with my daughter when she was born and his visits were far and few between at that point. I got up with her, I took care of our then 4 year old, not to mention cooking, cleaning and everything else. Without a car and money from him to boot. Ugh. It just doesn't seem fair, does it?


I know it's hard and I know you need a break. My advice is sleep when the babies sleep. DO NOT ( and I know how hard this is ) clean up or do laundry or do any other household duty while the babies are asleep. You have to take a break. Even if its just 20 minutes. It is so easy to get angry and be stressed in your situation especially on little or no sleep. I feel so bad and wish I could come and help you. I know how hard it is. I can't tell you how many nights I would fight with XH because he told me he was working and couldn't come help and he really was out with OW or partying in canada. ( seems childish, I know )


TRY TRY TRY and take some time for you.... I am sending you huge hugs and a huge shoulder. If you need anything, please send me an email through the ivillage site. I am always here and even if I am not I check my email from my phone.


Take care and try to get some rest.


Hugs,


Angelena

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 2:26pm

He needs to grow up!... and FAST!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~