Want to wash him out of my life

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Registered: 12-12-2005
Want to wash him out of my life
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Sun, 01-29-2006 - 9:03pm

I just feel so dirty right now. Like how could I have ever married a man that is truly the biggest jerk on the planet. He is crueler than cruel - downright evil. Just trust me on this. So cruel that I divorced him in less than 30 days, got everything and the baby whom I can take and live anywhere I want with. I tried everything and thought he was as well but he was lying, cheating and stealing from me as we went to marriage counseling! And - with a baby on the way. My pregnancy was really hard and I had contractions every 10 mins from week 30. When I was 6 months pregnant he decided it was too difficult for him so he started an affair. This was after he made major purchases with cash he lied about from under the table jobs I didn't know he had. He was a con artist. He's verbally abusive (especially to pregnant wives) and lazy. Plus he's laid off half the year and will try to get you (and your parents) to pay for all kinds of stuff. He deserves to rot in jail - well hell, really - but on this planet, jail. I want to warn women world wide. Stay away from a man with two ex-marriages that was divorced with a baby under 6 months old. He lives in MA.

He turned into this evil monster while I was married to him. Or he covered it up and then let out his true colors. Now I don't know how to feel okay again. I have to take a long hot shower or something. Any advice?

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 7:39am
He probably didn't "become" that way. He was "that" way before but being a con artist, he played the role that you wanted. Mine did too. Mine's been a little bit of everything in my marriage. I do get scared that I won't recognize healthy or unhealthy in the future (if another relationship is even a possibility which I've been doubting). Still, if I am honest with myself, there were red flags and gut feelings that I ignored. I hope you can get past all of this anger and confusion (although it's VERY understandable). It's unfair because he's the one to create all of this havoc and you have to feel all of this anger yet he probably sleeps quite well at night. UGH...men.