Wanted This Done Before...

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Registered: 08-21-2002
Wanted This Done Before...
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Sat, 12-10-2011 - 4:39pm

I so wanted this divorce to be done before Christmas. But it looks like that won't happen. I have been leaving several message with the court facilitator to go over my paperwork with me and she is not in her office. UGH! Oh well. Keep my head lifted up and just keep on going.

I was frustrated the other day when a friend of mine came up to me and said he has talked with my ex and proceeded to tell me all the things he said about me. Like he still loves me and still wantes to be with me and all that crap. That made my axciety go through the roof and I was done for the day. I hate it when people don't realzie how something like that can really effect the person going through this process. But no man that every hits me is ever going to get back in to my life.

Anne
Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Sun, 12-11-2011 - 4:40pm

Hi,

Sometimes you have to manage your friends. In this, when they started to tell you what he said, you could have held up your hand in the "stop" sign position and said, "I would appreciate it if you would not repeat what he said." That's not rude, it's setting boundaries. Your "friend" is probably running around telling everyone she can get to listen what your STBX said. That's really not her business.

Good luck.