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| Fri, 05-25-2007 - 10:23am |
I post regularly on Single Mothers and Dating mostly because I was a full time member and CL there after my first divorce. Well, I am separated from DH #2 and we have not declared the end yet. He's moved out but we are talking and he comes over and we spend time together. The girls at SMAD are already post divorce mostly and seeing other guys off and on so they are so far past the effects of the divorce. I am not past my split yet.
He's upset right now because I am insecure over my cheating ex and have accused DH of many things he has not done. We have hurt one another with words and actions, but we do love one another immensely and he is just mentally shut down right now. I am learning to accept that he would never do to me what my ex did and hopefully we can reconcile.
Why is it foolish to hope for that? Why when I've seen it done is it pathetic to love him so much when I know he loves me too?
~Melissa~

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Hugs, Brenda
Hugs, Brenda
I pray that you get what you want too. Just remember that if it's meant to be, it will. I always have to remember that so I will not feel so bad about things. DH is thinking. He knows how I feel and maybe he will come home again, maybe not. But I am hoping for a reconciliation. We are the loves of each other's lives. I cannot imagine where I'd be if I had not given him a chance. I almost didn't.
~Melissa~
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Hey there...
I'm sorry you're going through all of that on the other board.
I am so sorry you are having difficulties in your relationship. I am so afraid the same insecurities you are having with husband #2 due to husband #1's infidelities will happen with me. I think it's probably a natural reaction.
I don't mean to pry and you don't have to answer if you don't feel comfortable but how long after husband #1 did you meet and marry husband #2.
Just curious, I am recently divorced and soooo afraid of a commitment (I don't even know how to have a friendship for fear of commitment)right now because I really do feel like I'm broken and I need a LOT of time to mend.
I hope your husband understand your insecurities and perhaps the two of you can talk to a professional to get through all this. --
never mind.....
Also, it's not right to bash another board......
Edited 5/26/2007 9:46 am ET by debs1999
Lissa,
Hi and welcome.
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