We both have lawyers and he's trying to

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We both have lawyers and he's trying to
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 9:45am

play dirty already.

Well we were in court Friday the 13th. And oh was he playing into the whole cliche. The lawyer who works for the judge took us into a room to see if we had come to any agreements on the visitation schedule. He started his crap as usual. Saying how it's my fault he hasnt been able to see his son and Im mad he has a girlfriend, Im trying to force him to spend the holidays with me and my family and he wants nothing to do with us. He called me a money grubbing b!#ch. And said he regrets having the baby with me. I just let him show his true colors and the lady said now wait a minute he's here already and he said he knows but he still regrets it. So I told her I was afraid for my safety and well as the baby's because of his hostility. And he was like yes he is hostile, who wouldnt be after what I did. He said so since I let a judge tell him how much money to give to his kid let the judge tell him when he can see him. He went on to say he would never do anything to hurt him if anything it would be me because I dropped a phone on his head.

It's gonna get ugly. The lady asked if we had lawyers and she said we could speak to some. And now that's what is next. Both lawyers are women.

When we went before the judge they told us to state our name and relationship to the child. He went first, stated his name and said parent. The court officer asks him is he the father and he says I hope so. A real jerk. When they were making the date to come back to court Feb. 9th he was telling his lawyer that date is no good for him he has school. She told him you said you havent been able to see your son and you want a date as soon as possible then take off from school.

I think he may actually ask for a paternity test. He is so wrong. I hate to think how ugly this is gonna get.

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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:44pm

I'm so sorry you are going through this...Luckily all i've received are threats for things to get ugly. My divorce is final, thank God, but I do get the weekly "it's gonna get nasty" threats from him. Hang in there...be tough! Just use this as a reminder of why you are so glad it's over- whenever my ex is an @ss like that I just thank him of reminding me of why we're not together anymore. ((HUGS))

Lainie

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 2:25pm
Thanks for your support. Unfortunately that is how it started with me. The threats of things getting ugly. He sure kept to his word. Him and I werent legally married. I truly hope your ex does not follow through on his threats. If you ever need to talk I'm here.
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 6:11pm

It's probably good for you that he's still acting like that in court and in front of your attorney's.


Keep us updated on how things go.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 01-11-2006
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 11:56am
I'm sorrythat he's being so horrible. You shouldn't have to deal with that. Atleasthe's making an @$$ of him self in front of everyone. I wouldn't think that would work in his favor. Good luck, hon!