We had our 1st forensic evaluations.....
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| Mon, 06-05-2006 - 8:52am |
Whew,
On Saturday I had my first FE. I was nervous leading up to it and tried to be as calm as possible once I got there. I had to take a "test" if you will of true and false questions. Can you believe this damn thing was 569 questions. That's right 569. My God. That I was not expecting then afterwards came the interview. It was two of them (men) dr's. Once took notes and the other talked. We discussed when ex and I first go together, why we broke up, he asked why I thought he wanted joint custody, and so on. Then he asked, so what's the story with the tv's. Geez ex went there the week before me and is still ranting to anyone who will listen about the material stuff between us. Ex said there were 4 tv's I confirmed there were three and that I was willing to compromise but he wanted it his way or no way at all. I expressed my concern about his extreme anger towards me and the dr stated he doesnt think the anger is just towards me, it seems to be about others as well. He said it seems he could benefit from some counseling. He asked me if I think he knows what he wants and I said at times no. He said he doesnt think he knows what he wants but he can see he loves his son. I agreed that is the one think I know without a doubt that he loves our son.
WHOW! If they request some sort of therapy ex is going to be pissed and ofcourse blame me. But hey him and his lawyer are the reason we had to do this eval to begin with. Why they are trying to paint me as unstable he better watch his step. On a whole it went rather well. It felt really good to know they could see through his rantings which Im sure he did. Him and I both have to go back with our son. Dont know what that will be about but another hurdle cleared.
L.

It sounds like it went very well... and I think that it was good that you could honestly say that "at times" you don't think he knows what he wants vs. saying that he's an irrational bleeb... and that you said that you really do think that he loves his son.
The bottom line is.... he needs help so that he can be a better person... for HIMSELF.... as well as for his child and everyone else around him, and maybe this will be the ticket to get him there.
And hey, you had to go through the same process as him.... let him blame whoever for whatever.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I think its wonderful that you agreed with him that your ex loved your son. It goes a long way when you can be amicable and say positive things in regards to the ex despite the negative situation you find yourself in. It will go a long way to support a positive situation for YOUR side of things. If your ex is doing nothing but badmouthing you, it will not fare well for him because you will look much better that you are trying to remain calm and amicable during this situation to outside people.
Good job!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~