We survived!!
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| Sun, 07-29-2007 - 9:29pm |
Finally the summer visitation is OVER!!!! This has been the longest weeks ever. My DD brought him over, OMG how that little one had changed. The idiot XH did not even speak or say anything to the baby as he left, maybe these weeks didn't mean anything to him after all it was all just to spite her (that is all he has). Maybe someday he will realize he's a dad and grow UP!! Well, we survived this summer anyway and I appreciate all the support I found on this board. I have read alot of the messages posted on divorce and my DD doesn't have alot of extra time between work and the baby so I relay alot of the advice found here and it has really been helpful, she is definately not alone in this. I also found out that you can only take things one day at a time.
Celebrating
nana

I'm glad for your daughter that her little one is back in her arms. I miss my kids so much when they are with their dad.
I do have a thought and just want to put it out there. Is it possible that the baby's father not saying anything as he left was because it was painful rather than because he doesn't care. Perhaps he is trying to grow up and realize he is a dad and is finding the separation after being with his child overwhelming and difficult. Of course your daughter knows him and I don't, it is just a thought.
This in no way is meant to minimize the pain your daughter feels being apart from her child or anything else she is going through.
I try to make myself believe that he will come to care for the baby. The only reason he even shows up in the first place is to take him to his mother. The only pain he feels is not being able to party or play with the many toys he acquired before and after the divorce. The not speaking has been something he is good at, he would go for weeks and not speak when he was mad. I know this child will have to get to know him and his family but it should be because they care and not because they are trying to get at her. I hope the time he spent with the baby makes him realize how serious being a dad really is. I guess there is always hope.
thanks for the thought
I share the same hopes for your grandchild. Your daughter and her child deserve a father figure in that child's life who is open, caring and loving - every child deserves that.
I hope I didn't offend you or your daughter.
No matter what happens with him, it is clear that this child has a wonderful mother and a caring involved grandmother. You will all be in my thoughts.
Not at all. I appreciate all comments and I am grateful to be able to have a place where I can let all this out. It makes it so much easier to be able to talk with others. I believe things will get easier as time goes on. Reading alot of the post makes you realize how everyone in this situation has so much to deal with.
Thanks and please do keep us in your thoughts because this is a long way from being over.
Nana