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ahah finaly found my original post!My SCOAH(seperated coward of a husband)has literally disappeared of the radar screen and, the little contact I haave had with him in tre to do with himhe last seven months(on the phone and by ewmail) have been so sick and negative, I really want nothing more to do with him.Although it does bother me that he has used me for so long and gets to walk awayt scott free with no reprocussions. His parents are influential residents of Washington DCand have basicly told me it was my decision to have this child and they feel their son can barely take care of /support himself(never mind his law degree.Apparently they were depending on me to do that for him in their absence)and can hardly be held responsible for the care of a child(he is only 37 after all). I could and probably should write a book.But for now I need to focus on baby and finding enough work to support us both. more to come after the baby shower next week :) Sorry about the spelling mistakes and the length

His parents told you WHAT?!?!??!?! LOL! I would have LAUGHED in their face. Let's see... if HE didn't want or need kids..... it was HIS responsibility to take care of that on HIS end, and let's face it, ANY time you have sex, even protected sex, you are taking a risk.

I can't believe they said that to you... like that threat (and that's what it was) was supposed to mean something to you. Well, it means that they are idiots. Barely make it. HA! HA! HA!

Don't you even thing for a second that you're going to do this on your own. True, it might be a pain to enforce getting child support, but child support DOES need to be a part of his life. If he chooses to not pay it, then let HIM carry that burden. My guess anyway is that his mommy and daddy will pay it for him if push comes to shove anyway.... so make sure that you get child support in your divorce settlement.

hugs,

Karen

yea,his dad actually said and I quote "SCOAH is concerned that he will have to support this child for the next 18 years" implying strongly that I should relieve him of that responsibility in whatever way i felt neccisary. In the same conversation it was made very clear to me that they would be there for me as long as i was still his wife(making me feel like I was otherwise a non person). My concern in going after child support is that he will use it as an excuse to ruin my life(he's angry at himself and the world just enough to do it). And as for working, he is "working" though I doubt the irs knows about it and as far as I can tell he's making money under the table and or out of his house, in order to avoid me and any divorce papers.He has instructed all of his friends to ignore me and his parents refuse to speak to me. Any thought on how to go after someone(for support) who lives in an oregan town that is so tuned in to tuning out it's easy to disappear?thanks for all the response folks