Well I guess it is done

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Well I guess it is done
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Sun, 06-26-2005 - 2:49pm
When my DH got home from his trip with the air force he said it was done we are going to get a divorce. I still don't understand this, it just makes no since to me at all. He does not want to work on it at all. I think that is the hardest thing for me to get right now. We told the kids today and it just broke there hearts, they are so upset and I know I can't take away there pain, the only one who does not seem to be hurting is my DH he has showed no emotion at all. I have to come to terms with this some how I will make it through this. It is so hard after 10 years to know he will not be there for me anymore, I am not only losing my lover but also my best friend, this hurts so bad. Thank you all for listing to me, I am sure I will be here a lot.






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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sun, 06-26-2005 - 3:14pm
I am sorry. (((HUGS)))

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Registered: 08-31-2004
Sun, 06-26-2005 - 4:36pm

I am so sorry for you, unfortunately, I am in the exact same situation. Everyday has been a struggle for me to get by, while H just goes on as usual unaffected. Oh, and dont worry, I feel like I have been a message posting fool, but I feel like if it keeps me from talking to H, then its a good thing!!!

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Registered: 06-09-2005
Sun, 06-26-2005 - 6:35pm
Hugs Sue
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Sun, 06-26-2005 - 9:59pm
Sue, I am so sorry to hear of your impending divorce. Mine will be final aug. 1. The shock is the hardest thing to get over. Nearly 4 months later I still have times where I am in denile. Hopefully this time will end soon. I know about the pain of telling your children. It absolutely broke my heart . My boys are doing better now, but they still have days. My oldest's (12) grades went from A's to F's. He just quit doing the work. Luckily school is out now. I am still not looking forward to school this fall. My 9yo cried all the time in the beginging. He is still easily brought to tears, but not as much. My STBX doesn't seem to be having any pain over our divorce either. He does seem happier since he has a place of his own. My Ex has been my lover, my friend, and confidant for 20years. We have been married 15. I don't exactly know what I am going to do without him. Sometimes the pain is intolerable. I will tell you I am finding strength in me that I didn't know I had. Also I have learned to rely on my faith. God is taking good care of me. I wish I could tell you how long you will be in pain, but I haven't even figured it out for myself. I wish you the best. Both of us will get through this.
Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 9:19am

Hugs to you sweetie.


It is so hard. Losing what seems to be everything with the flash of a light. Just like that. No warning, nothing. I think most of us know that feeling, I know I do. Thing is, I didn't lose. It took me a long time to believe that, but I gained a lot more and now I actually THANK my husband for leaving me.


Hugs to you and please take care of yourself. Take time for you and hug the kidlets :)


Angelena