Well, it's final!
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| Mon, 07-23-2007 - 12:20pm |
Our divorce was final on Friday. He actually showed up this time. He is the one that filed then stopped one day before it was supposed to be final in January, didn't show up in June for court and finally he showed up Friday. I had told him in June that if he had no plans to move out of his girlfriend's house, he needed to stop dragging it out and get it over with because I wasn't waiting anymore for him to sit on the fence. His response..."I'm sorry you think I am dragging it out." Hello!! It's been 14 months...I would think you would have a clue what you want by now!
Anyway, everything had already been signed and agreed on. We just had to appear in the judge's chambers as a formality (actually I didn't have to go since I didn't file but I did anyway just so he would have to face me). It took about 2 minutes...less than the wedding! So far, I am OK with the whole thing. I mean, it was really a formality since we have been living apart for 15 months already. I expected to be a little more upset or something but I wasn't. Now I just have to get through his wedding in September to his skanky girlfriend. Her divorce will have only been final for 11 months and his will have been final for about 45 days when they get married. Can you say...STUPID! I'm not sure which one to feel the most sorry for because they both obviously have relationship issues - like they can't be alone.
Anyway, has anyone had to deal with a remarriage of their X so soon after the D was final. Like I said, the actually divorce date came and went without must emotion on my end (I mean I did get upset briefly after court but then I was OK). But it is going to be hard to know that he has remarried so quickly (and to the person that broke up our family no less). I keep telling myself that he did me a favor...and I really believe he did. He is obviously not the kind of person I want to spend the rest of my life with. I guess I should thank her, too, huh?
Oh well, I will survive this, too. I've made it this far. I'm certainly not going to quit now!
Stephanie

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I am also on the same page as you regarding moving in with EX out of my parents house. I took care of everything so living on my own with the 2 kids was not a problem for me. He had the problem cuz he stayed in our marital home and when he had no heat upstairs, guess who he calls, yup me. When GF messed up his computer and he lost a bunch of stuff (she was trying to delete my profile) guess who he calls, right again! Like a sap, I helped him. Now he wants me to help him set up the computer for his so called new company he wants to start. This time instead of running to help his *ss, I tell him I need to think about it. I'll think about, but when GF comes up on Thursday, I'll just tell him he needs to hire someone.
The biggest fear I do have at this point is meeting someone. Trust me, I'm not in a hurry to do that because I'm comfortable being by myself. I just want to enjoy the company of friends, male or female. My family has been supportive but I would like to start making my own friends. I did meet a guy last nite who asked for my # as he would like to call me when he goes out on his motorcycle. I had met him a few months ago and talked and we ran into each other again last nite. We'll see what happens!
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