Well it's really happening...

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Registered: 03-14-2005
Well it's really happening...
Fri, 03-09-2007 - 11:46am

i really will be moving out this time - after all the threats on his behalf about divorce & me moving out, i'll actually be doing so on the 18th...we just seem to go thru the same cyclical behaviors & that's where it always leads...separation/divorce...i know that i've needed to work on some things in the marriage, but b/c he owns the house, makes more money etc. i feel like i've been bullied into trying to be a better wife and partner while he got to somehow take the bypass...we've got three children & i'm in peril over how this will affect them - and i won't mention the wonders in my mind of how i'm going to do it financially - but...i do have a start w/a girl subleasing me her place for a few mos. then i will have to figure things out from there...but that will at least give me some time to breathe & think things thru clearly - i will also be involved in training for my business, so will be keeping busy!!!

usually after these fights, he makes improvements & steps toward building the relationship that he just attempted to destruct, which he did this time...however when i show him i am that i am serious about moving out & change, i don't get the response of him wanting to sit down & work things out...maybe it's pride, maybe it's that he really wants this...

oh well, one wk to go...




Edited 3/9/2007 11:46 am ET by ivill_laurel