Were any of you allowed to keep your ...

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Registered: 03-22-2006
Were any of you allowed to keep your ...
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Sat, 04-01-2006 - 3:02pm
house and deed equity to your ex until the children are no longer minors? I want to keep my house but likely cannot buy him out at this time. I have been told this is sometimes allowed...???
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Sat, 04-01-2006 - 9:26pm
Lisa, I have my house until I sell it. At that time I have to give my ex half. As long as i am living in it it is mine. Forever and ever.
Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 03-22-2006
Sat, 04-01-2006 - 9:58pm
Thanks....but did your ex agree to that or did the Judge make him...? My STBX cares for no one but himself right now and doesn't think about the kids hapiness...
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 2:04pm
my ex agreed. Sorry if it seemed to easy. Good luck!
Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 3:10pm

My STBX and I had to sell the house. He owed a HUGE amount in back income taxes. Unfortunately, since we had filed taxes jointly, I was responsible for them also. The only way to pay them off was with the proceeds of the house. I went on to rent a nice apartment, and he purchased a new home.


However, a close friend of mine did get the house in her divorce settlement, and didn't even have to buy her ex out or agree to split the proceeds once the house is sold. So it CAN happen.






What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson




Edited 4/2/2006 3:21 pm ET by cl-justiceandtruth
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Registered: 03-22-2006
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 4:30pm
Thanks. I just want some continuity for our children.... at least for a while. Even if I were allowed to keep it for 24 months or so. One thing at a time ya know?
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 12:09am
I didn't want the house... he liked the area (far, far away from all of my friends).

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 12:12am

I approached moving as an adventure..... "you'll both have new bedrooms... and TWO houses!... a toothbrush at both places, special pillows...."


I also assured them that they'd still have time with both of us..... "mommy and daddy just can't live in the some house together any more."


Your attitude about whatever happens with the "stuff" will play a large part in how your children will adjust.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 2:26pm
I totally agree that our childrens' attitudes are closely tied to ours. My DD is ok as long as I'm ok. Fortunately, I don't have to fake being ok much - she'd probably see right through me. I'm hoping to buy my STBX out ASAP. I love the house, the location, and our neighbors and STBX has already provided enough change for our children. As long as nothing happens to my place of employment - I don't plan to move anytime soon, if ever.