What are the upsides....
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| Sun, 04-08-2007 - 7:43pm |
....of splitting from your ex/stbx? I know we've done this before, but sometimes, it just feels good to see the list written down. What are the positive aspects of your split?
10. I don't have to live in a pile of useless clutter.
9. I don't have to listen to the door slam at 4am when he finally decides to come home.
8. I don't have to hear that I am crazy, sick, or need help all the time.
7. Although my income is less, I can use than income to pay bills, buy groceries, and start a savings account, not watch money being wasted on toys and going out.
6. I don't have to hear messages from bill collectors any longer.
5. I don't have to hear that I am "nagging" if I ask to discuss finances, OR hear, "We'll talk about it next week," then hear that I'm a "b*tch" for bringing it up the next week.
4. I can have hope that I will find a partner that is loving, decent, kind and supportive.
3. Since I am not mired with his debt, I can get student loans to finish my college degree.
2. I can have a better relationship with my son because my home is no longer filled with tension and misery.
1. I can start to let the poison from the marriage drain out of my soul, and look forward to a positive future!
Well...in all honesty...I am remarried now, and after my divorce, 1-10 all happened ;) A few years ago, I never, in a million years thought I would be as lucky as I am today.

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Okay – this seems like it might be therapeutic! I will try anything to get my mind off of the reasons I would want his cheating self back.
10. Don't have to worry about which employee/"just friends" he is sleeping with anymore
9. My Christmas list just dropped 16 people (who by the way, after 21 years of being in their family have not even called to see how I’m doing – the divorce – affair – not my idea)
8. I now have 2 dogs – which he always told me no way (the kids love their dogs).
7. Don’t have to sleep with his back in my face every night.
6. Don’t have to make an extra plate for dinner – in case he decides to come home.
5. Don’t have to believe his lies – his gf can believe those now (& he can believe hers as she is still married).
4. No more sports on TV - with him yelling at the TV (except hockey – I love my Ducks!)
3. Less laundry to fold
2. Got the closet all to myself.
1. I don’t have to listen to him blow his nose in the shower anymore!
Given the time to really sit and think about it I think I could come up with a top 100. However, even with all this knowledge - I still don't want this divorce, I want my life back. I'm still in love with the man I married - the problem is that man has figuratively died and a lying cheating b*st*rd is now inhibiting his body.
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