What is best for my DD
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| Mon, 05-30-2005 - 8:35pm |
Me again. I thank you all who read my post Childless and Lonely. I made it through the long weekend witout my baby girl. It was hard but She has been home since 6 p.m. and my gosh it is already time for her to go to bed. Why does my time with her fly by sooooo fast!!!
Here I go again......
In our temporary custody orders there is no mention of me sending clothes for her. I have bounced back and forth for this. I had no problem in sending clothes for her but I NEVER GET THEM BACK!!!!!! No matter how many times I tell him to SEND THEM BACK!!! Soooo then I decided HEY I AM NOT SENDING THEM. But it backfired in my face and my DD had to suffer. He only gets her Friday night, Sat. night and home by 6 p.m. Sunday. So then the weekend I didn't send clothes my DD comes home in the same clothes she went there in and I could smell her little "we-we". Because her panites were dirty. Now does that mean that he kept her in them all weekend I don't think so. But I do think he took her clothes off her from Friday and when he brought her home he put them back on her dirty. So from then on I promised my DD -- YOU WILL NEVER HAVE TO BE IN DIRTY CLOTHES AGAIN- I AM SORRY!! I mean she smelled stinky.
I see my lawyer on Thursday to start to finalize the divorce and I guess I will bring this up.
So now I pack her clothes and tell him EVERY SINGLE F&^%$# TIME HE COMES TO GET HER BRING ME MY CLOTHES BACK!!! Do I have top designer clothes - absolutely not but when I am not getting $$ from him I can't run out and keep buying her clothes!!!!
I have even taught my daughter to put her clothes in (Wal-Mart baggie) but even though I showed her she is still a kid and forgets. But the catch is this ..... he has a niece that is a year older than our DD and he always bums clothes from her and she comes home sometimes with her clothes on (I ALWAYS SEND THEM BACK) but if she isn't wearing her clothes then why shold I send them but they are NEVER IN HER BACKPACK ANYWAY.
Tonight he forgot her tennis shoes!!! GAWDD!!!!!
Now here is my other dilema -- I don't always talk to him and I don't babysit him anymore. But she is graduating from pre-school Weds. The teacher sends the parents every week a typed letter of what they have learned that week and what they are going to learn the following week and any announcements. Well my babysitter hands him these sheets. Today (he gets her Mon and Thurs) he says to her I will see you Thursday. And I am thinking to myself -- Jerko why do I have to remind you!!! I reminded him that this was his LONG holiday weekend if not she would have been home yesterday. But I did tell him but I know some of you have responded and told me that reminding him would only benefit our DD and she would love him there.
BUT WHY MUST I BE A MOTHER TO HIM ALSO. I have to remind myself of what goes on for her.....
Man I just thank God she is home and I love her!!! I have missed her soooo bad!!!!
Thanks for reading!!!

Oh boy I still have this problem
My daughter is 17 months