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| Sun, 07-30-2006 - 11:32pm |
First off, the few boards I am on are very helpful to me so the first place I thought to look for help was the IVillage boards, so don't let me down ladies! :)
Here's the situation: I am divorced, since remarried and couldn't be happier. My dear friend on the other hand (who was actually the matron of honor at my first wedding) is a wreck. I need help in telling her where to go & what to do.
She gave up everything for this guy: a career she loved in the military, moving, dropping out of school to follow him, three pregnancies back to back (which affected her body immensely) losing her third child a son in utero, etc. I know she has always held some resentment towards him for these things bc he was never able to provide the stability he promised. (he was dishonorably discharged before she seperated from the military if that tells you anything.)
So after about a few months of fighting back and forth, (he got to pursue his dream of becoming a tattoo artist, a lousy one in my opinion, while she stayed at home which is something she did not want to do but did for him.) he up and declared he isn't happy. this whole time he was the one saying "let's work this out, we can make it..."
this aroused suspicion on everyone's part. sure enough, there was another woman. scratch that: an 18 yr old tattoo bimbo. (you know the type: hangs around areas of ill-repute leeching on anything that gives her attention begot by physical inuendos...)
he left her with MOUNDS of bills, no job, no car, and says he didn't "abandon" her. he is just getting started in the tattoo world so hardly makes a thing and that's his justification for not giving her ANY money. he didn't even call to check on the children for almost 2 wks. he shows up today DEMANDING to see his kids, saying "Jessica" BETTER not withold them "or else." WTF?!?!?! Or else WHAT? well she of course gives in. all she has left is her girls. and she desperately does not want to lose them.


Hey there.... so, so sorry that I didn't get to ya sooner (life, work, kids, crazy the past two weeks).
I hope by now that your friend has gotten her children back.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~